2024 Tus sau: Harry Day | [email protected]. Kawg hloov kho: 2023-12-17 15:46
Kev khuv leej ua haujlwm roj rau kev sib txuas lus.
Empathy txhawb kev faib.
Nthuav heev.
Teresa Weisman yog tus kws saib xyuas neeg mob.
Nws tau kawm ntau yam sib txawv ntawm cov haujlwm uas muaj kev nkag siab yog ib qho tseem ceeb heev thiab txheeb xyuas plaub yam ntxwv yam ntxwv ntawm kev nkag siab.
Ua ntej, muaj peev xwm coj lwm tus neeg qhov kev xav
Lub peev xwm los hloov chaw ntawm lwm tus thiab lees paub tias nws qhov kev xav yog qhov tseeb rau nws tam sim no
Tsis txhob txiav txim. Nws tsis yooj yim, vim tias feem coob ntawm peb nyiam ua nws ntau heev.
Lub peev xwm los paub lwm tus neeg txoj kev xav thiab tom qab ntawd sib txuas lus rau lawv
Kev khuv leejyog lub peev xwm los xav ua ke nrog lwm tus.
Kuv xav txog kev nkag siab tias yog ib qho chaw dawb huv.
Piv txwv li, ib tus neeg poob rau hauv lub qhov dub tob thiab qw los ntawm hauv qab heev:
Kuv tau daig, nws tsaus ntuj thiab muaj ntau dhau mus ntawm kuv.
Tom qab ntawd peb nqis mus rau nws, saib ib puag ncig thiab hais tias:
"Wow. Kuv paub koj xav li cas ntawm no. Koj tsis nyob ib leeg."
Empathy yog:
"Zoo, yog, koj nqus ntawm no. Uh, koj puas xav tau qhaub cij?"
Kev nkag siab yog ib txwm xaiv uas ua rau koj muaj kev pheej hmoo.
Qhov tseeb, txhawm rau kom kuv txuas nrog koj, Kuv yuav tsum txuas nrog ib feem ntawm kuv tus kheej uas paub txog qhov kev xav no.
Nws yog qhov tsawg kawg nkaus, tab sis tsis yog nrog kev nkag siab zoo, peb pib sib tham nrog kab lus "Zoo, tsawg kawg …"
Yog, thiab peb ua nws txhua lub sijhawm!
Ib tus neeg tau qhia rau peb qee yam kev sib raug zoo thiab mob heev, thiab peb tab tom sim hnav nws qhov kev paub dhau los, los qhia tias txhua yam tsis phem, yog li ua rau nws poob qis.
Piv txwv li:
- Kuv tau nchuav menyuam.
“Zoo, tsawg kawg koj paub tias koj tuaj yeem xeeb tub tau txhua lub sijhawm.
- Kuv txoj kev sib yuav yog poob sib nrug.
- Ib yam, tsis yog, tab sis koj tsawg kawg muaj nws.
- John raug ntiab tawm tsev kawm ntawv.
- Zoo, tsawg kawg Sarah yog tus menyuam kawm ntawv zoo.
Qee zaum, thaum sib tham nyuaj, peb sim nplij lwm tus neeg thiab qhia tias yam tsis phem.
Yog tias kuv qhia rau koj ib yam dab tsi zoo thiab mob heev, Kuv xav kom raug hais:
"Wow … Kuv tsis paub yuav hais dab tsi rau qhov ntawd, tab sis kuv zoo siab heev uas koj tau qhia rau kuv."
Qhov tseeb yog tias nws tsis tshua muaj neeg tsawg uas ib qho ntawm koj cov lus tuaj yeem txo qhov kev txom nyem ntawm ib tus neeg
Pom zoo:
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Kev xav thiab kev xav feem ntau siv zoo ib yam thiab muaj tus yam ntxwv raws li txheej txheem kev puas siab ntsws uas qhia txog tus yam ntxwv ntsuas tus cwj pwm ntawm cov xwm txheej uas twb muaj lawm lossis ua tau. Txawm li cas los xij, kev xav yog qhov cuam tshuam ncaj qha rau qee yam raws li qib kev nkag siab, thiab kev xav yog cov khoom lag luam ntawm kev xav, ntsib kev paub dhau los, kev cai tso cai, kev cai, kab lis kev cai … Ntau tus kws tshawb fawb faib cov kev xav rau
Kev Phom Sij Ntawm Txoj Hauv Kev Zoo Mus Rau Lub Neej Yog Dab Tsi? Dab Tsi Yog Qhov Raug Mob Thiab Cuab Ntawm Cov Lus Pom Zoo?
"Tus kws kho paj hlwb tuaj yeem pab koj li cas? Nws yuav qhia koj yuav ua li cas thiaj ua tau zoo ntawm txhua yam thiab muaj kev lom zem." Xws li lub tswv yim ib txwm thiab yuam kev ntawm lub hauv paus ntawm kev kho hlwb tuaj yeem hnov txhua lub sijhawm.
Thiab Nws Nug Tus Me "Qhov Zoo Yog Dab Tsi? Thiab Qhov Phem Yog Dab Tsi"
Txhua tus niam txiv xav ua qhov zoo tshaj plaws rau lawv tus menyuam, Kuv xav ua kom nws muaj kev kawm zoo tshaj plaws, kev txhim kho zoo tshaj plaws, kev paub zoo tshaj plaws thiab zoo tshaj plaws. Tab sis ua ntej muab txhua yam zoo tshaj plaws, koj yuav tsum ntsuas seb koj tus menyuam xav tau dab tsi.
Kev Txiav Txim Siab Tsis Nkag Siab: Dab Tsi Yog Qhov Zoo Thiab Vim Li Cas Nws Thiaj Li Nyuaj
Vim li cas qhov kev txiav txim tsis nkag siab zoo thiab vim li cas tib neeg tseem tsis maj nroos tso tseg kev tshuaj xyuas (thiab ntsuas kev nkag siab)? Dab tsi yog qhov tsis txiav txim siab qhov kev xav? Nov yog kev tsis lees paub ntawm kev tshuaj xyuas thiab kev sib piv ntawm qhov uas ib tus neeg pom hauv ntiaj teb ib puag ncig nws.
Kev Kho Hlwb Yog Dab Tsi Thiab Nws Txawv Li Cas Ntawm Kev Sab Laj Txog Kev Xav?
Qhov sib txawv tseem ceeb tshaj plaws ntawm kev kho thiab kev sab laj yog tias thaum sib tham, raws li txoj cai, koj tsuas tuaj yeem daws qhov teeb meem tshwj xeeb. Kev kho tuaj yeem pab koj hloov koj lub neej, koj tus yam ntxwv, koj tus cwj pwm coj.