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- Yuav ua dab tsi hauv cov xwm txheej thaum txhua tus kawm qib ib hauv chav kawm muaj lub ntsiav tshuaj nrog Is Taws Nem, thiab tus menyuam thov tib yam? Yuav ua li cas thiaj tsa tau menyuam yaus feem ntau txog txhua yam khoom siv thiab xov tooj?
- Tau kawg, nws yog qhov yuav tsum tau siv dag zog ntau rau kev kawm hauv tsev neeg kom tus menyuam raug tiv thaiv qee yam. Txawm yog ib tus neeg laus (kuv ib yam!) Qee lub sij hawm khuv xim tias kuv tus qauv xov tooj tsis yog qhov kawg, thiab nws muaj kev xaiv tsawg dua. Thiab qhov no yog thuam.
Kuv xav tias cov niam txiv yuav tsum suav nrog cov ncauj lus no hauv kev sib tham ntau nrog lawv cov menyuam. Cov xov tooj thiab cov ntsiav tshuaj yog ib feem ntawm cov lus nug dav uas ua rau lawv txhawj xeeb: Kuv yuav ua li cas nyob rau ntawm xub ntiag ntawm lwm tus? Nws txhais tau li cas "piv koj tus kheej nrog lwm tus" thiab "khib leej twg"? Yuav ua li cas hnov thaum ib tus neeg khav theeb: Kuv txiv muaj lub tsheb zoo li no, Kuv muaj lub cuab yeej zoo li no.
Tej yam zoo li no yuav tsum tau tham ua ntej. Ntawm no tus menyuam tawg ua kua muag, thiab koj qhia nws: "Nres nws, qhov no tsis yog qhov tseem ceeb. Tus nqi tseem ceeb yog koj kev paub, koj txoj kev txhim kho sab ntsuj plig ". Nws lig dhau lawm! Nws zoo li hais rau tus ntxhais hnub nyoog 15-17 xyoo tias tus neeg uas nws poob rau hauv kev hlub tsis haum rau nws, tias nws yog neeg vwm thiab ntxias ntxias. Lig.
Kuv nyeem yuav ua li cas tus kws kho mob menyuam yaus zoo tshaj plaws ua kev kho mob nrog tus ntxhais. Tus kws kho mob hlwb lees paub heev, sov siab, tus menyuam pib ntseeg nws thiab hais tias: "Thaum kuv loj hlob, kuv yuav yuav koj." Tus ntxhais muaj tsib xyoos, tab sis nws twb tau tsim tib neeg cov duab ntawm tus neeg nws yuav yuav, txawm hais tias nws tau ua yuam kev tsis paub nrog poj niam txiv neej. Qhov tom kawg tshwj xeeb tshaj yog kov, vim nws qhia tau tias tib neeg tseem ceeb dua rau nws.
Koj yuav tsum qhia koj tus menyuam: "Koj tsis tau nthuav dav los ntawm lub cuab yeej, koj tsis dhau los ua neeg nyiam vim nws. Nws yog ib lub plhaub. Thiab koj tseem muaj txoj sia nyob, tiag tiag, txawm hais tias koj "plhaub" phem dua, tab sis cia peb sib piv qhov ua neej nyob! Wb tham txog tus tub hluas no uas muaj lub cuab yeej tshiab, vim li cas nws thiaj xav tias nws muaj zog dua tam sim no thiab koj tsis muaj zog? Koj puas paub tseeb txog qhov no? Cia peb sib piv koj cov kev ua, tej zaum nws muaj zog dua hauv qee yam, tab sis tsis yog txhua qhov vim tias nws muaj lub cuab yeej. Tab sis yog tias nws tsuas yog khav theeb txog nws, tom qab ntawd nws muaj kev txhawb nqa zoo li no, stilts."
Alexey Rudakov (tus txiv ntawm Julia Gippenreiter, lej):
- Nws zoo li niam txiv tias tus menyuam lub neej yooj yim thiab tsis muaj huab. Nws tsim nyog yuav nws lub xov tooj kim dua, thiab nws yuav zoo siab. Qhov tseeb, tus menyuam yuav tsum raug qhia kom tawm tsam lub ntiaj teb nyuaj. Muaj ntau yam teeb meem hauv ntiaj teb cov menyuam: lawv tsis muaj lub cuab yeej, lawv tsis nyiam cov ntse, thiab muaj kev tsis sib haum xeeb txaus.
Koj yuav tsum kawm paub tawm tsam nrog tshuab raj, kom muaj koj tus kheej txoj haujlwm. Nws pib ntxov. Yog tias koj xav tias lub ntiaj teb tau muag muag, ntawm no yog ob peb lub cuab yeej ntau dua, thiab koj yuav zoo siab ncaj qha - nws txaus ntshai, nws ua tsis tiav. Nyiaj tsis muab kev zoo siab, khoom siv tsis muab kev zoo siab.
- Yog tias kuv yog tus kws qhia ntawv, tus kws qhia ntawv hauv qib yim lossis qib cuaj, kuv yuav hais tias: "Cov phooj ywg, nej txhua tus muaj xov tooj - ib tus neeg yog neeg tshiab, muaj ib tus neeg muaj peev xwm tin tau, ntxuav tais diav. Cia peb sim ua. " Thiab kuv xav kom koj sau:
- Leej twg yog tus muaj zog tshaj hauv chav kawm?
- Leej twg yog tus hwm tshaj?
- Leej twg yog tus siab zoo?
- Leej twg yog tus ntse tshaj?
- Leej twg yog tus neeg mob siab tshaj?
- Koj yuav ntseeg leej twg tshaj?
- Leej twg yog tus nquag tshaj?
- Leej twg xav tias feem ntau ntawm nws tus kheej?
Tsuas yog cov khoom zoo, tsis muaj qhov tsis zoo! Thiab kom sau peb txog tsib lub npe nyob rau ntawm xub ntiag ntawm txhua yam khoom. Thiab tom qab ntawv nug leej twg muaj xov tooj zoo dua thiab leej twg muaj mob phem dua. Thiab sib piv.
Nov yog cov npe ntawm chav kawm, tab sis ntawm qhov tsis sib xws - zoo, ntse, muaj zog. Qee tus tsis tau nyob qhov twg, thiab kuv yuav hais tias: "Nws tsis yog vim koj tsis muaj cov khoom no, tab sis vim tias koj tsis qhia koj qhov zoo tshaj plaws, piv txwv li, ua siab zoo, cov txiv neej tseem tsis tau pom dua," - qhov no yuav tsum tau hais.
Nws yog qhov tsim nyog los tham nrog tus kws kho kev puas siab ntsws, xav txog qhov kev sim no, tej zaum tom qab ntawd qee tus hais mav yuav raug kho ntawm lawv qhov kev xav tau rau iPhone
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- Cov yam ntxwv zoo no yuav tsum tau txais - thiab kev ywj pheej, thiab muaj zog, thiab tawv ncauj, thaum kawg.
- Peb yuav tsum tau hais tawm cov yam ntxwv no thiab coj lawv mus rau qhov kev paub ntawm menyuam yaus. Muaj qhov nqaim ntawm kev txaus siab hauv cov txheej txheem thiab txhais tau tias ntawm kev sib txuas lus, tab sis qhov tseeb lawv yuav tsum tau ua neej nyob dav dua. Cov menyuam yaus tau txais txiaj ntsig ib txhij thiab txom nyem los ntawm kev siv thev naus laus zis. Yog li ntawd, txoj haujlwm ntawm tib neeg kev txawj ntse - kws sau ntawv, kws ua yeeb yam, kws sau paj huam, kws kho paj hlwb, kws qhia ntawv thiab niam txiv - yog nthuav lawv lub ntiaj teb, kev nco qab, nyob hauv lawv lub neej!
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- Muaj lwm qhov txaus ntshai. Tus menyuam yuav tsum kawm paub daws lub ntiaj teb, tab sis qee zaum nws nyuaj rau nws, nws yuav pom nws tus kheej hauv qhov xwm txheej ntawm kev tsav tsheb. Cov kws qhia ntawv tom nws, cov phooj ywg tawm tsam nws, thiab tom qab ntawd, tau kawg, nws xav tau kev tiv thaiv.
- Yuav tiv thaiv li cas?
Tus menyuam yuav tsum tsis raug tiv thaiv los ntawm kev nyuaj. Lub ntiaj teb yog qhov nyuaj, nws yuav pom nws tus kheej hauv qhov xwm txheej nyuaj heev, tom qab ntawd nws yuav tsum tau npaj kom thov kev pab. Yog tias cov channel no raug rhuav tshem los ntawm kev tswj hwm, kev thuam, tus cwj pwm hnyav, ntshai tias nws yuav raug luag thuam thiab raug txim los ntawm nws niam nws txiv, tom qab ntawd tus menyuam yuav muaj kev phom sij tiag. Qhov tseem ceeb yog kom muaj kev sib cuag. Thiab yog tias tus menyuam tau ploj kev sib cuag, ces nws tsis zoo. Tshwj xeeb nrog cov hluas. Kev ntseeg siab yuav tsum muaj.
- Thiab yog tias kev sib cuag poob, nws puas tuaj yeem rov qab los tau?
- Tau kawg! Tom qab tag nrho, tus menyuam tseem tab tom nrhiav kev nkag siab. Yog tias tsis muaj kev sib cuag nrog niam txiv, nws sim tsim nws nrog tus txheeb ze, yog tias tsis nrog cov txheeb ze, nws xaiv tus kws qhia ntawv. Cov menyuam tab tom nrhiav kev sib cuag, txhua tus tab tom nrhiav. Koj txhais li cas, ploj, thiab qhov ntawd yog nws? Yog lawm, nws xav tias tsis zoo yog nws poob lawm, tab sis nws yuav tsum sim ua kom rov zoo. Tab sis li cas txog?
- Koj xav li cas txog kev txhim kho menyuam yaus thaum ntxov? Niaj hnub no, ntau leej niam sim ua kom tus menyuam lub sijhawm ntau li ntau tau, muab cov haujlwm tshiab thiab tshiab. Yog tias koj tsis ua qhov no, koj xav tias koj ploj lawm ntau. Kuv puas yuav tsum tau sau lub sijhawm tag nrho ntawm menyuam yaus nrog kev txhim kho thiab kev ua ub no?
- Ib leej niam uas sim ua tus me nyuam kom ntau li ntau tau tsis ntseeg txog qhov tshwm sim ntawm nws txoj kev loj hlob. Tus me nyuam, tau kawg, xav tau zaub mov txawj ntse thiab cov ntaub ntawv sab nraud. Koj xav tau kev paub nrog thaj chaw, nrog cov ntaub ntawv, nrog duab, pleev xim. Tab sis nws muaj kev xav, txaus siab, muaj peev xwm thiab xav ua qhov nws xav tau - txhua yam no yog yam tseem ceeb heev, lawv suav nrog nws qhov kev txiav txim siab tus kheej. "Kuv xav tau" yog kev qhia koj xav li cas.
Thaum leej niam ua haujlwm hnyav rau tus menyuam nrog ntau yam dej num, nws rub nws los ntawm cov hlua, zoo li tus cwj pwm hauv tus menyuam ua yeeb yam: "Tam sim no koj yuav ua qhov no, thiab tom qab ntawd qhov no thiab qhov no!" Nws tseem tsis tau muaj sijhawm los txheeb xyuas qhov uas nws nyiam, tab sis lub zog ntawm nws niam tau sib koom hauv nws lub siab, lawv yuav qhia nws - thiab nws yuav ua raws nraim li lawv hais. Cov txheej txheem kev puas siab puas ntsws thiab kev txawj ntse uas tsim hauv chav kawm ntawm kev ywj pheej, tsis hais txog kev muaj tswv yim, kev npau suav, yuav tsum loj hlob los ntawm sab hauv, thiab tsis yog raws li lub tswv yim sab nraud.
Cov chav kawm txhim kho thaum ntxov tau muab faib ua ob pawg: qhia rau tus menyuam (tseem muaj cov khoom zoo li no, thiab tseem muaj cov tebchaws zoo li no, thiab tseem muaj cov lus zoo li no) thiab lom zem, ua si. Nws yog qhov tseem ceeb li cas leej niam tso cai rau nws muaj kev ywj pheej - hauv ib txoj haujlwm twg, qhov no yuav tsum nco ntsoov.
Leej niam npaj chav kawm li cas? Nws puas nug tus menyuam cov lus nug? Hais tias: "Saib, soj ntsuam"? Lossis tsuas yog: "Ua qhov no, ua qhov no." Tsis tu ncua rau tus menyuam lub sijhawm yog txoj hauv kev rau nws kawm tsis tau ntawv. Raws li qhov tshwm sim, tus menyuam yuav tsis tuaj yeem nyob hauv nws tus kheej, nws yuav xav tau lwm tus los nrog chav kawm rau nws, muab cov lus qhia. Nws tseem yuav cia siab tias daim duab sab nraud hauv daim ntawv niam yuav txiav txim siab thiab ua ntau yam rau nws.
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- Kuv ib txwm xav tsis thoob thaum kuv hnov tias tus menyuam xav tau qhov no, qhov no, thiab qhov no thiab qhov no yuav tsum tau qhia ua ntej tsev kawm ntawv. Cov npe rau tsev kawm ntawv me me, txawm tias me me. Thiab tus menyuam tseem muaj ntau yam los kawm. Piv txwv li, tswj koj lub cev. Nov yog txoj haujlwm loj, uas suav nrog kaum ob yam sib txawv - yuav ua li cas nkag mus rau hauv no, thiab yuav ua li cas thiaj dhau los ntawm qhov ntawd …
- Yuav ua li cas nce lub laj kab, khiav ntawm lub rooj nqaim? Npaum li cas poob yog tias koj tso lawv tsis raug. Thiab nws tsim nyog li cas thiaj li tsis poob? Nov yog qhov kev paub ntawm kev cai lij choj ntawm lub cev. Thiab txawm tias yuav saib yuav ua li cas niam cog lus rau leej txiv kuj tseem ceeb heev.
- Thiab yog tias lawv zaum, lawv qhib phau ntawv rau nws thiab qhia nws kom nyeem, nws tuaj yeem plam txhua yam.
- Yog li cov lus teb yog: tsis muaj kev vwm. Txhim kho yam tsis muaj kev xav.
Xwm yog yas, thiab leej niam yuav tsum yas nrog tus menyuam, tsis tawv. Nov yog lo lus zoo heev rau niam - yas!
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Yuav ua li cas daws cov menyuam uas ntshai? Yuav tsum zam dab tsi? Yuav ua li cas kom tsis txhob ntshai dhau rau koj cov menyuam koj tus kheej? - Peb yuav tsum tso cai rau yam phem, hnyav lossis phem npaum li cas rau hauv kev nco ntawm tus menyuam?
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Lub ntiaj teb tab tom hloov pauv, thiab niam txiv los ntawm txhua sab tau txhawb kom qhia lawv cov menyuam yaus tsis yog, ua tib zoo nyeem, suav thiab suav, tab sis kuj tseem muaj tswv yim, kev xav tseem ceeb … Nyob rau tib lub sijhawm, cov niam txiv niaj hnub no lawv tus kheej xav tias qaug zog thiab muaj kev nyuaj siab los ntawm tsis muaj sij hawm.
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Tau qhov twg los: Yulia Borisovna Gippenreiter yog tus neeg uas paub thiab hlub los ntawm ntau lab tus niam txiv hauv peb lub tebchaws. Nws yog thawj tus nyob hauv Russia los hais lus nrov nrov thiab ua siab loj xav: "Tus menyuam muaj txoj cai xav.
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Nws nyuaj rau tawm tsam qhov ntxim nyiam, nyob ntsiag to thiab muaj tswv yim ntawm tus poj niam muaj hnub nyoog 83 xyoos, nyiam tshaj plaws niaj hnub Lavxias tus kws paub txog kev puas siab ntsws Yulia Borisovna Gippenreiter, thiab niam txiv, tawm mus rau Yulia Borisovna rau kev sib tham, tam sim tig mus rau menyuam yaus lawv tus kheej.
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Tsis muaj menyuam, kev kho siab tus kheej thiab cov tshuaj hormones. Kab lus no tau sau los ntawm kuv tshwj xeeb rau cov uas xav nkag siab qhov tshwm sim ntawm "Childfree" hauv kab lis kev cai niaj hnub no, kom nkag siab txog kev xav ntawm cov neeg no.
