2024 Tus sau: Harry Day | [email protected]. Kawg hloov kho: 2023-12-17 15:46
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- Ntau tus neeg nyob ntawm no txiav txim siab lawv tus kheej introverts. Qhov tseeb, lawv tsis tau qhia ib txwm. Nws tsuas yog thaum menyuam yaus lawv tau sim qhia lawv cov lus zais nrog niam thiab txiv thiab tam sim pom tias nws tsis nthuav rau leej twg (lawv tau hnov txog nws ib zaug, tso kuv ib leeg thiab tsis dag kuv). Yog li tus cwj pwm ntawm kev paub txhua yam hauv tus kheej thiab kev ntseeg siab tias lawv tus kheej, thiab lawv cov teeb meem, ntau dua li, tsis muaj txiaj ntsig rau leej twg.
- 80% ntawm tib neeg tuaj rau kuv nrog lawv cov teeb meem tsuas yog vim lawv tsis muaj leej twg los qhia rau.
- Qhov kev xav ntawm kev nyab xeeb uas tus menyuam yuav tsum tau txais thaum tseem hluas yog qhov xwm txheej tseem ceeb tshaj plaws rau nws kev noj qab haus huv thiab lub neej yav tom ntej yam tsis muaj neuroses.
Tab sis dab tsi ntawm kev nyab xeeb peb tuaj yeem tham txog yog tias niam txiv tsis tuaj yeem twv ua ntej lossis kwv yees tsis zoo? Txhua yam yeej ib txwm tsis zoo nrog lawv. Cov cua hauv tsev neeg yog qhov kev cia siab ntawm kev puas tsuaj loj. Ib yam yuav tshwm sim tam sim no. Koj yuav poob, tsoo, raug tshuaj lom, tuag los ntawm kev kis tus kab mob, "koj yuav raug tsoo los ntawm KAMAZ, nws yuav pleev koj rau ntawm asphalt," yog tias koj tsis mus kawm ntawv qib siab, koj yuav ua haujlwm li tus neeg nqa khoom ntawm Pyaterochka. Ntawm no lawv yog - "me" psychotraumas! Lawv qhov laj thawj tsis tas yuav yog cov hlau kub lossis kev sib deev. Cov lus tsis zoo raug mob hnyav vim qhov tseeb tias lawv tau rov ua tas li. Koj paub, muaj European raug tsim txom - khib, raug ntaus, thiab muaj neeg Suav, thaum ib tus neeg tsis txav chaw, piv txwv li, raug ntaus nrog plaub tis kom txog thaum nws vwm. Nov yog qhov sib txawv tib yam.
- Feem ntau ntawm kev raug mob tshwm sim thaum muaj hnub nyoog 3 txog 5 xyoos
- Kev puas siab puas ntsws pov tseg yog thaum: tus menyuam tau nyob hauv chav tsaus ntuj thiab nws ntshai; nws nchuav dej npau rau nws tus kheej; niam thiab txiv sib nrauj; pam tuag ntawm pog thiab lwm yam dab neeg hauv lub neej txhua hnub, suav nrog kev ua phem - hlwb, lub cev, kev sib deev.
- Muaj cov xwm txheej xwm txheej tshwm sim thaum tus menyuam nyob ntawm cov neeg mob hlwb uas raug kev txom nyem txhua hnub lossis coj tus cwj pwm phem, tsis muaj kev cia siab, tsis paub meej, thiab lwm yam. Los yog hauv tsev kawm qib kindergarten lossis tsev kawm ntawv, nws raug thab plaub, raug mob, uas yog qhov xwm txheej rov ua dua.
- Tsis yog txhua tus menyuam yaus ua rau raug mob tib yam nkaus. Ib tus menyuam yuav muaj lub siab lub ntsws, lwm tus tsis muaj zog. Hauv qee qhov, qhov xwm txheej hnyav heev tsis muaj ib txoj hauv kev, thiab qee tus neeg raug mob rau lub neej los ntawm kev tuag ntawm tus miv.
Ib zaug kuv yuav tsum piav qhia rau tus menyuam hnub nyoog 7 xyoo kev sib nrauj yog dab tsi txhawm rau pab nws daws teeb meem. Kuv tham:
Koj nyob qib twg?
- Thawj zaug.
- Koj puas nyiam ib tus ntxhais?
- Yog lawm Lisa.
- Koj puas tau mus kawm qib kindergarten?
- Yog lawm
- Koj puas tau ntsib Lisa nyob ntawd?
- Tsis yog, Kuv muaj Lena nyob ntawd.
- Tam sim no nws nyob qhov twg?
- Kuv yuav piav qhia rau koj! Kuv twb nyob hauv tsev kawm ntawv lawm, kuv yuav paub tias Lena nyob qhov twg?
- Ntawm no. Thiab txiv yuav tsum nyob nrog koj niam tas nws lub neej, yog li cas?
Thiab tom qab ntawd nws nres quaj, cuam tshuam kev txais tos, tawm mus rau nws niam thiab txiv uas tau tos hauv txoj kev hauv tsev thiab hais tias: Kuv nkag siab txhua yam, cia peb mus …
- Kev ruaj khov, nplij siab, ntseeg siab - cov no yog thawj yam uas menyuam yuav tsum tau txais los ntawm lawv niam lawv txiv. Yog tias niam txiv coj tus cwj pwm phem, ua kom txaj muag, thuam tus menyuam, tom qab ntawd, ib txwm, nws ntseeg hauv lub neej feem ntau thiab hauv tib neeg tshwj xeeb yog qhov tsis zoo. Kuv muaj ib tus phooj ywg uas hais tshwj xeeb: Kuv ntxub tib neeg. Xaiv cov dev, miv, Thiab nws yog qhov tseeb vim li cas: tsiaj tsis ntxeev siab rau nws, tab sis txiv tau ua.
- Ntau tus neeg raug kev txom nyem los ntawm teeb meem kev sib txuas lus: nws nyuaj rau lawv mus rau lwm tus, hais ib yam dab tsi, qhia lawv txoj kev xav thiab kev xav, thiab vim li ntawd, nws nyuaj rau paub lawv tus kheej. Thiab yog vim li cas? Thiab vim tias lawv twb tab tom yuav niam haus cawv thaum muaj 4 xyoos, thiab nws tau hais lus tsis meej txog qhov tsis tsim nyog ntawm tus menyuam cov lus nug, thiab txog qhov tsis tsim nyog ntawm tus menyuam hauv ntiaj teb no. Thiab nws tau ua nws ntau zaus. Tam sim no tus tub yog 30, thiab nws yog qhov tseeb tias nws tsis tau xav txog kev sib tham tsis pub lwm tus paub.
- Psychotrauma, ua ntej tshaj plaws, ua rau muaj kev ntshai thiab ntxhov siab, uas txhais ua phobias, ntshai tawm tsam thiab ntseeg hauv tib neeg.
- Yog tias koj nqa tag nrho tsev neeg, tab sis mob hlwb, thiab tsev neeg tsis muaj txiv - tom kawg yog qhov zoo tshaj.
- Yog, cov hauv paus ntawm ntau yam teeb meem los ntawm menyuam yaus. Tab sis cov niam txiv, lawv yog lawv li cas. Lawv tsa koj raws li lawv ua tau. Koj yuav tsis hloov lawv, koj yuav tsum hloov koj tus kheej! - rov sau cov menyuam cov ntawv, loj hlob ntawm nws.
- Yog tias koj tsis xav kom koj cov menyuam muaj kev puas siab puas ntsws, coj tus yam ntxwv kom lawv tsis txhob ntshai koj, yog li koj tuaj yeem kwv yees tau, yog li dhau los ntawm koj lawv xav tias ntseeg hauv lub neej. Yog, yog tias tsis nyob ze, tom qab ntawv muaj, yog li koj tuaj yeem hu ib zaug, qhia qee yam, nug. Thiab yog tias tus menyuam tab tom qhia qee yam rau koj, sim tsis txhob cuam tshuam nws lossis muab tswv yim, tab sis tsuas yog mloog.
Yog koj
- tsis tuaj yeem ntseeg lwm tus;
- tsis paub yuav qhia koj li kev xav li cas;
- kev xav tsis zoo ("Kuv tsis tuaj yeem hlub", "Kuv tsis hnov dab tsi");
- koj tsis tuaj yeem paub txog hauv tsev neeg lossis hauv txoj haujlwm;
- tsis xav tau (lossis ntshai) kom muaj menyuam;
- koj muaj kev nyiam rau kev nyuaj siab, thiab lwm yam.
tej zaum tag nrho cov no yog qhov tshwm sim ntawm psychotrauma thaum yau
Nws yog ib qho tseem ceeb rau kuv uas koj paub tias koj tsis tas yuav them nyiaj rau koj thaum yau tsis zoo siab tag nrho koj lub neej. Thiab yuav luag txhua yam tuaj yeem kho tau.
Pom zoo:
Cov Menyuam Yaus Thiab Cov Neeg Laus Nrog Kev Tiv Thaiv Kev Tiv Thaiv
Hauv kev yuam kev hnov lus sib tham hauv tsheb me, tus poj niam qhia nws qhov kev xav ntawm nws tus phooj ywg tus tub hauv xov tooj (tsis yog nqe lus, tab sis lub ntsiab lus dav dav): "Thiab tus menyuam nws muaj dab tsi! Nws zoo tag nrho, tsis zoo li peb.
Hais Txog Cov Uas Tsis Tau Muaj Menyuam Yaus Thaum Ntxov. Thiab Neeg Laus Ib Yam
Muaj cov menyuam uas paub tab ntxov dhau lawm. Lawv loj tuaj vim tias tsis muaj ib tus neeg laus txaus ntseeg, cov niam txiv uas lawv tuaj yeem tso siab tau ib sab ntawm lawv. Kev haus cawv, tsis paub tseeb, qee zaum qaug cawv, qee zaum qaug cawv txiv.
Cov Khoom Muaj Nqis Uas Ib Txwm Nrog Koj (kev Ua Si Hauv Lub Neej Ntawm Menyuam Yaus Thiab Cov Neeg Laus.)
Lub luag haujlwm ntawm kev ua si hauv lub neej ntawm menyuam yaus thiab cov neeg laus. Koj puas nco qab koj tau ua si thaum menyuam yaus? Thiab yog dab tsi? Koj nyiam ua si dab tsi? Koj puas paub tias koj qhov kev nkaum-thiab-nrhiav-nkaum-thiab-nrhiav-cim npe tau muaj kev kho hlwb?
💥 Menyuam Yaus, Tus Kheej Tus Kheej Thiab HORMONES. 💥 Vim Li Cas Kuv Tsis Xav Tau Tsev Neeg Thiab Menyuam Yaus - Cov Lus Teb Rau Koj Cov Lus Nug Koj Yuav Pom Hauv Kab Lus. 💥 PSYCHOLOGIST TIPS
Tsis muaj menyuam, kev kho siab tus kheej thiab cov tshuaj hormones. Kab lus no tau sau los ntawm kuv tshwj xeeb rau cov uas xav nkag siab qhov tshwm sim ntawm "Childfree" hauv kab lis kev cai niaj hnub no, kom nkag siab txog kev xav ntawm cov neeg no.
Tus Kws Paub Txog Menyuam Yaus Tus Kheej: Dab Tsi Pab Tsim Kev Sib Raug Zoo Nrog Menyuam Yaus
Tus kws paub txog menyuam yaus tus kheej: dab tsi pab tsim kom muaj kev sib raug zoo nrog menyuam yaus. Cov lus qhia los ntawm tus kws paub txog menyuam yaus ntiag tug txog yuav ua li cas nrog menyuam. Cov kev tshawb fawb tau pom tias peb yam cuam tshuam rau ib puag ncig hauv tsev:
