2024 Tus sau: Harry Day | [email protected]. Kawg hloov kho: 2023-12-17 15:46
Kuv sau tsab ntawv no ua ke nrog kuv tus npoj yaig Anna Karpovich. Niam txhawj xeeb, tshwj xeeb yog niam ntawm cov tub ntxhais hluas, feem ntau sau ntawv tuaj rau peb. Thiab hnub no peb xav teb ib lo lus nug no:
"Kuv tus menyuam raug thab plaub tom tsev kawm ntawv, tabsis tsis kam tham txog lub ncauj lus no. Yuav ua li cas rau qhov xwm txheej zoo li no."
Tom qab tag nrho (ua siab ncaj), ntau tus kws qhia ntawv, kws kho paj hlwb uas ua haujlwm hauv tsev kawm ntawv feem ntau tsis mob siab rau qhov no. Hais tias, lawv tuaj yeem tswj hwm lawv tus kheej, menyuam yaus, koj tuaj yeem nqa dab tsi los ntawm lawv. Tab sis qee zaum qhov xwm txheej tshwm sim los ntawm kev sib cav yooj yim mus rau kev thab plaub hnyav, qhov uas nws tsis yog kev thuam ntxiv lawm, tab sis kev xav zoo, ua tib zoo npaj txaj muag. Yuav ua li cas yog tias tus menyuam nyob hauv qhov xwm txheej zoo li no, rau koj ua niam txiv? Tom qab tag nrho, yog tias koj cuam tshuam nrog qhov teeb meem ncaj qha, nws tuaj yeem ua rau mob hnyav dua ….
Ua ntej tshaj plaws, ua siab nqig koj lub siab kom "rhuav txhua tus rau koj tus menyuam." Qhov no tsuas tuaj yeem ua rau muaj teeb meem ntawm qhov xwm txheej. Tom qab tag nrho, thaum qhov kev xav no ua haujlwm, tom qab ntawd lub siab feem ntau dhau mus. Thiab koj yuav tsum ua yam txhob txwm ua.
Peb yuav tsis mus rau hauv kev daws teeb meem hauv kev sib raug zoo, uas yog, ceeb toom rau tus kws qhia hauv chav kawm, kws paub txog kev puas siab ntsws hauv tsev kawm ntawv thiab lwm tus tub ceev xwm, tham nrog niam txiv ntawm tus neeg ua txhaum, thiab lwm yam. Feem ntau, cov niam txiv lawv tus kheej paub txog qhov no. Txawm li cas los xij, koj tuaj yeem pab txhawb koj tus menyuam li cas? Yuav tham nrog nws txog nws li cas? Thiab qhov tseem ceeb tshaj plaws, nws puas tsim nyog coj nws mus rau kws kho mob hlwb?
Peb yuav teb tam sim ntawd yog tias tus menyuam tsis npau taws rau nws cov neeg ua txhaum, nws ua rau muaj kev xav ntau rau kev thuam, thiab thaum nws tham nrog koj txog qhov no, nws txaj muag thiab nws nyob ntsiag to, tom qab ntawv nws yog qhov tsim nyog rau lub siab ntsws ua haujlwm nrog nws. Feem ntau, qhov mob, kev chim siab thiab txaj muag ua rau tus menyuam mob hnyav. Thiab ntawm chav kawm, nws yog qhov zoo tshaj tam sim no tig mus rau tus kws tshaj lij kom cov kev paub no tsis ua mob rau nws lub siab, nws lub meej mom thiab kev nkag siab ntawm tus kheej.
Cov niam txiv tuaj yeem ua dab tsi? Tab sis cov niam txiv, qhov xwm txheej tam sim no, yuav tsum mloog zoo rau qhov ua tau zoo ntawm lawv tus menyuam. Ntau zaus kom nws ua tib zoo mloog rau qhov nws ua tau zoo dab tsi, nws yog tus zoo tshaj plaws thiab qhov zoo uas tau pab nws daws qhov xwm txheej ntawm kev txaj muag. Qhov tshwj xeeb tshaj yog koj "qhuas" yog (nws tsis yog li ntawd; koj tsuas yog ua rau koj tus menyuam mloog rau lawv cov peev txheej thiab ua tau zoo), qhov kev txhawb nqa koj yuav ua tau zoo dua.
Yog tias tus menyuam tsis tuaj yeem qhia kev npau taws rau tus neeg ua txhaum, tom qab ntawd koj txhua txoj hauv kev tuaj yeem xav txhawb qhov kev xav hauv nws. Hauv qhov xwm txheej no, npau taws yog qhov tseem ceeb, vim nws muab lub zog kom kov yeej qhov xwm txheej raug mob, nws yog ib qho tseem ceeb uas yuav ua rau nws - ntaus hauv ncoo, ncaws rooj tog, cog lus, thiab lwm yam (ntawm no tuaj yeem yog txhua yam koj tuaj yeem xav txog, tab sis nws yog qhov tseem ceeb tias tus menyuam txoj kev txav mus los tsis yog me me, uas yog, yog tias koj rhuav daim ntawv, tom qab ntawd rhuav nws lub zog, siv tag nrho cov leeg ntawm caj npab thiab xub pwg, thiab tsis yog ntiv tes nkaus xwb).
Thiab tseem qhia koj tus menyuam cov kab lus txhawb nqa hauv qab no: "Kuv nrog koj!", "Kuv nrog koj," "Kuv txhawb koj," "Kuv hlub koj," "Koj tau ua nws" (lub ntsiab lus qhov teeb meem thab plaub). Muab koj tus menyuam lub cev tiv tauj ntau zaus - khawm, tuav tes. Cov lus pom zoo no tseem muaj ib qho uas txawv - txhua nqe lus no yuav tsum tsis txhob hais yog tias koj mob siab rau tus menyuam. Hauv koj, tus menyuam yuav tsum muaj kev txhawb nqa, txhawb nqa, ruaj ntseg thiab muaj zog. Hauv lub sijhawm nyuaj no, txhua tus neeg ua rau nkag siab ntau txog lub hom phiaj, lus, lub suab nrov uas koj hais, hais lus lossis kov. Yog tias koj mob siab rau tus menyuam, yog li koj muab nws cov lus tias nws yog tus neeg raug tsim txom, nws ua tsis tau dab tsi. Tab sis qhov tseeb nws tau ua, nws tawm ntawm qhov xwm txheej, nws nyob hauv tsev, nws nyab xeeb. Tsis tas li, koj yuav tsum tsis txhob qhia rau tus menyuam tias nws tuaj yeem ua dab tsi - nws tiv tau zoo tshaj plaws nws tuaj yeem ua tau, nws muaj txoj sia nyob - koj txoj haujlwm yog tsom mus rau qhov nws tau ua tiav lawm.
Tab sis, yog tias, txawm li cas los xij, qhov xwm txheej tau dhau los ua qhov uas koj raug yuam kom xa koj tus menyuam mus rau lwm lub tsev kawm ntawv, tom qab ntawd koj yuav tsum tau sab laj nrog kws paub txog kev puas siab ntsws kom qhov xwm txheej zoo li no tsis rov tshwm sim hauv lub tsev kawm ntawv tshiab-
Peb kuj xav qhia rau koj nrog cov txheej txheem yooj yim tab sis zoo heev rau kev nthuav tawm kev ua phem
Thaum peb npau taws, kuv xav qhia txhua yam kuv npau taws rau tus neeg tham. Kuv xav qhia koj tias nws ntse npaum li cas, thiab koj tsis tuaj yeem coj tus yam ntxwv zoo li ntawd. Tab sis, hmoov tsis zoo, peb ib txwm tsis muaj sijhawm los nthuav qhia qhov tseeb tag nrho rau ib tus neeg. Thiab qhov no, lus sib dhos yuav pab peb ☝. Yog, nws yog rhymes. Peb txhua tus nco txog "kev ua haujlwm zoo" - "tus tub muab nws cov ntiv tes tso rau hauv lub qhov (socket). Txhua yam uas seem tau sau hauv cov ntawv xov xwm. " Nws yog cov haujlwm uas pab peb qhia txhua qhov kev npau taws, kev chim siab, ntxiv rau xav tau ntau yam ntxim nyiam rau peb tus neeg ua txhaum. Tsis txhob txhawj xeeb tias qee yam yuav tshwm sim rau tus neeg. Tsis yog, txhua yam yuav zoo nrog nws, tab sis koj lub siab yuav zoo dua, vim tias hauv daim ntawv tso dag no koj yuav qhia txhua yam uas tau sau hauv koj tus plig.
Cov lus qhia yog yooj yim:
1. Xav txog tus neeg uas ua phem rau koj.
2. Xav txog yam koj xav qhia rau nws
3. Thiab qhov ntawd yog nws. Muaj tswv yim. Tuaj nrog cov lus sib dhos thiab sau tag nrho ntawm daim ntawv. Thiab tsis txhob hnov qab nyeem nws nrov nrov, nyiam nrov nrov thiab nrog kev hais tawm.
Pom zoo:
Cov Neeg Tsim Txom, Cov Neeg Raug Tsim Txom, Cov Neeg Cawm Seej Yam Twg Ntawm Cov Hauv Qab No Ua Rau Kev Khuv Leej, Kev Khuv Leej, Kev Xav Pab?
Cov lus nug coj txawv txawv, tej zaum koj yuav xav tam sim no. Tab sis qhov tseeb, kuv cov lus nug nyob deb ntawm coj txawv txawv. Vim li cas tib neeg thiaj dhau los ua tus neeg tsim txom (ua phem)? Yog, vim tias muaj kev ntshai thiab ntxhov siab ntau hauv nws qhov chaw puas siab ntsws, uas tau tshwm sim thaum nws tus kheej yog tus neeg raug tsim txom, qhov kev txiav txim siab raug rau nws nkaus xwb, tsis paub txog.
Tus Khub Tsim Txom Yog Tus Neeg Raug Tsim Txom Ntawm Kev Sib Tsoo
Despotism, tyranny, kev nruj kev tsiv hauv kev sib raug zoo - lub cev lossis kev puas siab puas ntsws: lub ncauj lus nquag siv rau kev thov kho . Narcissist, despot, aggressor, rapist, psychopath: qhov no yog lub npe rau cov koom tes uas tsim kev sib raug zoo los ntawm kev quab yuam, kev hem, kev dag ntxias, dag ntxias lossis ua phem rau lub cev.
Lub Luag Haujlwm Ntawm Cov Neeg Raug Tsim Txom Hauv Kev Ua Phem Hauv Tsev. Tus Neeg Raug Tsim Txom. "Hu Rau Ntawm Kev Txi"
Wb pom zoo tam sim - lub luag haujlwm rau kev ua phem nrog tus neeg ua phem. Qhov no yog tus kheej lub luag haujlwm. Nws tsis tuaj yeem muab qhia rau leej twg. Tab sis hauv qhov xwm txheej ntawm kev ua phem hauv tsev, ob qho tib si koom nrog:
Txhua Tus Neeg Tsim Txom Muaj Tus Neeg Raug Tsim Txom! Puas Yog Cov Neeg Tsim Txom Ib Txwm Koom Nrog Tus Neeg Raug Tsim Txom?
Muaj kev xav tias tus neeg ua phem tsuas yog coj cov neeg raug tsim txom ua ob peb leeg. Hauv kab lus no, Kuv xav hais txog tus yam ntxwv ntawm tus neeg raug tsim txom ntawm cov poj niam uas pib kev sib raug zoo nrog tus neeg ua phem. Nws yog hom neeg raug tsim txom dab tsi?
Kev Ua Phem Rau Menyuam Yaus. Yuav Ua Li Cas Yog Tias Koj Tus Menyuam Raug Thab Plaub Los Ntawm Cov Phooj Ywg
Svetlana, uas cov menyuam yaus muaj feem ntau dua li lwm tus los ua cov khoom ntawm kev thab plaub thiab kev thuam ntawm lawv cov phooj ywg? - Txhua tus menyuam tuaj yeem raug luag thuam hauv tsev kawm ntawv. Tab sis tsis yog txhua tus dhau los ua lub hom phiaj ntawm kev thab plaub thiab thab plaub.
