2024 Tus sau: Harry Day | [email protected]. Kawg hloov kho: 2023-12-17 15:46
Niam. Lawv txawv li ntawd. Qee qhov yog "zoo tshaj", lwm tus tsis zoo heev … thiab tseem yog lwm tus, yog li feem ntau - koj tsis tuaj yeem saib yam tsis muaj kua muag. Tab sis, lawv txhua tus niam.
Hnub no kuv xav tham, xav txog "kev xav" thiab "tsis zoo" hauv kev ua niam. Vim li cas nws thiaj tseem ceeb heev rau qee leej niam kom ua neeg zoo tag nrho, thiab qee leej tsis tuaj yeem ntseeg ntawm lawv li qub, thiab qhov tseeb lawv tau nkaum tom qab pob txha hauv lawv lub qhov rooj. Kuv yuav sim tham txog qhov no los ntawm kuv qhov kev xav, raws li kuv qhov kev paub thiab kuv paub.
Thiab yog li, hauv kev xav muaj ib yam zoo li lub tswv yim zoo ntawm tus kheej.
Nws hais tias muaj peb hom cwj pwm: schizoid, neurotic thiab narcissistic (nrov yooj yim: schizoid, neurotic thiab narcissist).
Qhov tseeb, tag nrho cov ntu no muaj nyob hauv peb txhua tus. Nws tsuas yog qhov no lossis ntu no feem ntau "ntawm tus tuav" ntau dua li lwm tus, thiab qee zaum ib feem "kev cai" nrog txhais tes thiab taw ntawm lwm qhov, tab sis qhov ntawd yog lwm lub ncauj lus.
Niaj hnub no, kuv tsuas yog xav tham txog kev tiv thaiv narcissistic. Muaj dab tsi nyob ntawd? Thiab nws qhia nws tus kheej li cas hauv niam thiab menyuam lub neej.
Narcissists yog cov neeg muaj kev phom sij heev. Qhov tseeb dua, lawv twb muaj qhov chaw raug mob. Yog tias koj ua rau lawv me ntsis lossis pom lawv, tom qab ntawd koj tuaj yeem tam sim ntsib lawv nrog kev txaj muag. Feem ntau, qhov kev txaj muag no muaj zog heev, thiab feem ntau yog tshuaj lom.
Qhov no txhua yam cuam tshuam nrog kev ua niam, tej zaum koj tab tom nug tam sim no. Nws yooj yim heev. Niam Narcissus yuav coj li cas? Qhov tseeb dua, leej niam leej twg muaj qhov tsis txaus ntseeg "ntawm tus thawj coj"?
Muaj tiag ob txoj kev xaiv.
Kev xaiv ib - "niam zoo tshaj."
Niam no ib txwm zoo nkauj heev. Nws txaus siab rau txhua qhov nws ua tiav hauv kev yug menyuam, nws cov menyuam tsis muaj mob thiab nws ib txwm zoo li tsis txaus ntseeg, nws muaj txhua yam raws li nws tus lej (yog tias tsis yog, tom qab ntawd nws txaus siab rau nws cov phaus ntxiv), thiab nws ib txwm paub txhua yam zoo dua leej twg. Hauv kev sib txuas lus nrog nws, feem ntau koj tuaj yeem tau txais qhov kev xav tias koj daj ntseg tiv thaiv keeb kwm yav dhau ntawm nws tus grandeur, thiab tias koj tau raug caw mus tas li hauv ntiaj teb kev sib tw, thiab hauv ntiaj teb no koj … feem ntau yuav poob.
Feem ntau nyob ib puag ncig nws muaj cov pawg niam ntxawm thiab cov uas khib nws, thiab zoo li yog tias kev sib raug zoo nrog koj tsis tseem ceeb rau nws.. hauv paus ntsiab lus nws yog, lossis lawv nrawm heev, vim qee qhov tsis muaj txiaj ntsig, poob tus nqi thiab koj qhov kev sib txuas lus tam sim ntawd xaus (piv txwv li, thaum koj dheev, Vajtswv txwv, ntes nws ntawm "tsis zoo").
Tsis tas li, thaum koj sib tham, nws feem ntau zoo li koj tsis tau hnov dua, zoo li nws muaj txiv tsawb hauv nws pob ntseg thiab lub hlwb, uas nws tsis muaj peev xwm khuv leej thiab khuv leej. Nws hais tias: "Tsis txhob txhawj xeeb, tham txog kuv zoo dua, txhua yam zoo nrog kuv, lossis yog tias koj xav tau tiag tiag, thov, vim hais tias tiv thaiv koj keeb kwm yav dhau kuv tseem zoo nkauj dua". Feem ntau, feem ntau nws yog "niam - dej khov".
Yog vim li cas? Txhua yam no yog dab tsi rau nws?
Nco ntsoov kuv sau saum toj no txog kev txaj muag? Qhov tseeb, tus niam no ntshai heev rau nws, thiab npog tag nrho nws qhov chaw raug mob nrog cov yas. Nws zoo li ris tsho hnav.
Yog, nws cov menyuam muaj mob, thiab txog li 2 xyoos tsis mus rau hauv lub laujkaub, thiab nws cellulite zoo ib yam li lwm tus, tabsis yog nws tsis kam lees nws hauv nws tus kheej, tsis yog hauv kev sib txuas lus nrog koj, nws yuav ntsej muag txaj muag. Thiab nws yuav nyuaj heev rau nws. Kev txaj muag yog qhov nyuaj heev, thiab leej niam no, nyob rau theem tsis paub qab hau, ntshai nws zoo li hluav taws. Yog li ntawd, nws yuav txo qhov kev sib raug zoo uas yuav coj nws txawm tias ib lub millimeter los ze rau nws, nws yuav hais tias: "Nws tsis yog kuv uas tau txav mus deb, lawv tau ua txhua yam kom ua tau li ntawd." Nws ua qhov no vim nws raug mob. Tus niam no xav tau kev txhawb nqa tiag tiag, thiab nws xav tau kev nyob ze, qhov tseeb, tab sis nws ntshai nws heev tias qhov kev sib raug zoo no ua rau nws muaj mob, vim tias thaum nyob ze koj qhib thiab dhau los ua neeg tiag; thiab nws txaj muag tiag tiag rau nws tus menyuam, uas thaum muaj 2 xyoos tsis mus rau hauv lub laujkaub … nws ib yam nkaus. Yog li ntawd, nws yooj yim poob ntawm kev sib cuag, thiab koj plam nws.
Qhov thib ob ntawm Narcissus niam yog niam uas "koj tsis tuaj yeem saib yam tsis muaj kua muag."
Qhov no yog qhov ua tsis tiav ntawm "niam zoo meej". Tus niam no yuav qhia rau koj paub tias "niam zoo" zoo li cas thiab txhua yam zoo nyob nrog koj li cas. Thiab nws yuav ib txwm zais nws lub siab thiab tsis pom nws qhov ua tiav. Piv txwv li, nws tus menyuam tau mus rau lub lauj kaub sai sai tom qab nws zaum, thiab nws yuav paub tseeb tias nws tsuas yog muaj hmoo; los yog, piv txwv li, nws ua kis las thiab zoo nkauj heev … tab sis damn nws! Tsis yog! Nws muaj qhov ncab ntawm no thiab nyob ntawd, thiab qhov tseeb nws yog koj tus ntxhais huab tais zoo nkauj, thiab nws zoo li txaus ntshai tiv thaiv keeb kwm yav dhau ntawm koj. Qhov no kuj tseem muaj txiv tsawb hauv nws pob ntseg thiab lub paj hlwb, tab sis tsuas yog cuam tshuam tsis rau koj, tab sis rau nws tus kheej. Tus niam no feem ntau ntshai tawm ntawm kev yug menyuam vim nws xav tias nws tsis ntse txaus, thiab feem ntau nws yeej tsis tawm los. Thiab tag nrho vim tias, hmoov tsis, nws txaj muag.
Qhov tseeb, tus niam no tuaj yeem yog tus neeg zoo siab, txawj ntse, muaj kev kawm, tab sis … txaj muag yuav tsis cia nws pom qhov no. Thaum koj qhia nws "+", nws poob rau hauv kev txaj muag, vim qhov no tsis txaus, koj "ntsuas" ntawm kev ua siab zoo txawv, vim rau koj nws yuav yog "zoo heev", tab sis rau nws nws yog qib uas tsis tau mus txog "txaus siab". Thiab lub khob ntawm nws yog, zoo, nyuaj heev rau sau. Tej zaum koj yuav nkees nkees ua qhov no thiab xav kom nyob nrug deb ntawm koj niam.
Kev txaj muag yog qhov mob rau cov niam uas tsis paub cai thiab feem ntau ua rau lawv txoj kev zoo siab.
Tab sis dab tsi txog lawv cov menyuam, koj nug?
Cov niam no feem ntau "pub" lawv cov menyuam nrog cov khoom siv uas lawv tau "pub" nrog. Piv txwv li, lawv paub qhov tseeb los ntawm qhov chaw uas niam zoo tagnrho yuav tsum yog, thiab lawv tseem paub meej tias cov menyuam zoo li cas yuav tsum yog. Tawm tsam keeb kwm yav dhau los no, kev tsis sib haum feem ntau tuaj yeem tshwm sim ntawm lawv thiab menyuam yaus. Nws yog qhov nyuaj heev rau cov niam no kom tsis txhob tswj txhua yam nyob ib puag ncig, ntsuas thiab sib piv lawv tus kheej nrog txhua tus. Hauv lawv lub taub hau muaj kev teeb tsa meej uas yuav tsum muaj kev zoo siab - koj yuav tsum yog qhov zoo tshaj, thiab ntau yam koj ua tiav, koj yuav muaj kev zoo siab dua.. thiab cov menyuam tsuas xav tau niam, thiab tsis muaj teeb meem dab tsi nws yog, yam nws tau ua tiav, lawv xav tau leej niam uas yuav muaj peev xwm, yog leej twg, hlub lawv. Leej twg. Thaum twg lawv mus rau lub lauj kaub. Qhov no yog qhov tseem ceeb tshaj plaws - kom muaj kev hlub, thiab muaj peev xwm muab tau yam tsis txaj muag.
Hauv kab lus no, kuv tau muab piv txwv thiab tham txog qhov ua phem tshaj. Qhov tseeb, narcissism tsis phem yog tias nws nyob hauv qhov nruab nrab. Nws txav mus rau kev txhim kho, yog tias nws tsis raug kaw.
Txawm li cas los xij, Kuv pom zoo rau txhua tus niam uas tsis nyiam poj niam, thiab feem ntau rau txhua tus niam, sim tsis txhob nyob ib leeg, saib ib puag ncig, kom pom tias yog dab tsi, lwm tus neeg, tsis thim thiab lees txais kev saib xyuas ntawm cov neeg hlub, yog tias muaj thiab yog tias lub sijhawm no koj xav saib xyuas … Qhov pom ntawm tus menyuam yog teeb meem, nws yog qhov hloov pauv tsis tau, txawm hais tias nws zoo nkauj (feem ntau), thiab nws yooj yim dua los ua neej nyob dhau qhov teebmeem no thaum ib tus neeg nyob ib puag ncig.
Yog tag nrho.
Zoo siab rau txhua tus uas nyeem.
Pom zoo:
Nyuaj Nyuaj Ua Vaj Tswv Lossis Kev Xav Tsis Zoo Txog Kev Ua Niam Txiv
Andrey Zlotnikov rau TSN Lub zog ntawm niam txiv dhau ntawm tus menyuam tsis muaj qhov txwv - pub mis, hnia, rau txim, qhia, qhia, piav qhia, thiab lwm yam. Txhua feeb tus niam txiv tuaj yeem ua qee yam lossis tsis ua ib yam dab tsi cuam tshuam nrog tus menyuam:
Txoj Hauv Kev Txheej Txheem "Tsev Neeg Sociogram" Hauv Kev Kawm Ntawm Leej Txiv Thiab Leej Txiv Leej Twg (ib Qho)
Leej txiv yog leej twg - tus yam ntxwv ntawm tus kheej nyuaj, kev tsim uas tau txiav txim siab los ntawm tus yam ntxwv ntawm tus txiv neej thiab qhov xwm txheej tshwj xeeb ntawm nws tsev neeg. Leej txiv yog leej twg - Qhov no yog kev paub ntawm nws tus kheej ua leej txiv, kev lees paub ntawm lub luag haujlwm no hauv zej zog thiab kev lees paub ntawm tus txiv neej ua txiv los ntawm cov neeg tseem ceeb.
Leej Twg Los Cawm: Tus Menyuam Los Ntawm Leej Niam Lossis Leej Niam Los Ntawm Menyuam?
Zoo Niam Ib leej niam zoo heev fij nws tus kheej thiab tso nws tus menyuam ua ntej. Nws tsis nco qab txog nws tus kheej lub neej thiab kev xav tau. Kev npau taws thiab chim siab, vim tias niam zoo tsis npau taws rau lawv tus kheej. Nov yog ntau leej niam tsis zoo.
"Kuv Puas Yog Niam Tsis Zoo? !!" Nws Nyuaj Npaum Li Cas Los Ua Niam Tsev Zoo Tshaj
Cov menyuam yaus hauv tsev neeg zoo li hloov pauv lub neej. Peb hnov ntau yam txog qhov no, tab sis peb tsis paub txog qhov hloov pauv kom txog thaum peb tus kheej ntsib nws. Cov menyuam yaus yog lub sijhawm tseem ceeb hauv txhua tus neeg laus lub neej.
Koj Xav Tau Kev Sib Deev Ntau Npaum Li Cas? Ntev Npaum Li Cas Thiab Pes Tsawg Zaus?
Rau cov neeg uas muaj kev sib raug zoo mus ntev (tsawg kawg ib xyoos lossis ntau dua), lossis, sib tham, yog tias cov koom tes nyuam qhuav pib tsim kev sib raug zoo, cov lus nug feem ntau tshwm sim - dab tsi yuav tsum yog kev sib deev tsis tu ncua hauv ob peb?
