2024 Tus sau: Harry Day | [email protected]. Kawg hloov kho: 2023-12-17 15:46
Cov kws tshawb fawb xav saib cov khub niam txiv hauv lawv ib puag ncig ib puag ncig. Txij li thaum nws tsis yooj yim rau txeeb lub tsev ntawm cov khub niam txiv, cov kws tshawb fawb tau daws qhov teeb meem no los ntawm kev tsim chav studio hauv lawv chav kuaj. Nws tau nyob hauv lub tiaj ua si ntawm University of Washington hauv Seattle, nws muaj ib chav nrog chav ua noj thiab cov rooj tog tsim nyog. Cov niam txiv tau pom zoo siv sijhawm ib hnub nyob rau hauv hom qhib rau kev soj ntsuam. Cov niam txiv tau txhawb nqa nqa zaub mov thiab khoom siv nrog lawv siv sijhawm so hnub so hauv tsev - ua yeeb yaj kiab, phau ntawv, thiab txawm tias ua haujlwm. Qhov xwm txheej yog ua txhua yam raws li lawv tau ua hauv tsev, rau 12 teev txij li 9 teev sawv ntxov txog 9 teev tsaus ntuj.
Dab tsi ua rau cov kws tshawb fawb xav tsis thoob tshaj plaws yog ua li cas tib neeg thiaj ua thiab teb rau "sim ua kom muaj kev sib txuas zoo siab" lossis sim txheeb cov khoom. Cov kws tshawb fawb tau txheeb xyuas cov kev sim no raws qib kev xav tau ntawm cov lus teb. Nov yog li cas daim ntawv teev npe (los ntawm sab saum toj mus rau hauv qab):
- Yooj yim kom tau txais koj tus khub mloog
- Kev sim ua kom txaus siab rau tus khub
- Sim ua kom muaj kev txaus siab
- Lub siab xav txuas ntxiv kev sib tham
- Xav ua si
- Sim dag
- Xav tau kev txhawb siab
- Hu rau kev tshaj tawm tus kheej
Cov kws tshawb fawb tau pom tias tom qab txhua qhov kev twv txiaj, tus koom tes uas tau txais qhov kev thov teb hauv peb txoj hauv kev: "tig mus" tus khub nrog kev mob siab rau; "Tig tawm" tsis quav ntsej cov lus nug lossis lus nug; "Reacts negatively" ("thov txim, kuv sim nyeem").
Yuav ua li cas khub niam txiv tau teb rau cov kev xav hauv lub siab no tau hais ntau txog lawv lub neej yav tom ntej. Thaum xub thawj siab ib muag, cov tshuaj tiv thaiv tsis tseem ceeb, tab sis qhov sib txawv ntawm tus cwj pwm yog qhov kwv yees zoo tshaj plaws ntawm dab tsi tos rau khub nyob rau hauv lub sijhawm ntev. Tom qab 6 xyoo, khub niam txiv uas ib tus khub nrog kev xav zoo siab tau teb tsuas yog 3 ntawm 10 kab lus twb tau sib nrauj lawm. Thiab cov uas zoo ib yam ua rau 9 tawm ntawm 10 qhov kev thov tseem tau sib yuav.
Hauv kev sib yuav, lub sijhawm no ntawm kev sib raug zoo lossis tsis saib tsis xyuas tsim kev coj noj coj ua hauv kev sib raug zoo lossis tsis zoo. Cov sijhawm no qhia kev tawm tswv yim thiab sib sau ua ke dhau sijhawm, vim tias txhua qhov kev sib tham tom ntej tau ua tiav nyob rau yav dhau los. Rau txhua tus neeg, lub sijhawm poob qis thiab npau taws, kev ua siab dawb thiab kev hlub tsim cov lus tawm tswv yim uas ua rau kev sib raug zoo tag nrho yog lom ntau dua lossis zoo siab dua.
Xwm yog nquag rau kev hloov pauv, tsis yog kev hloov pauv. Kev tshawb fawb hauv ntau thaj chaw tau qhia tias kev hloov pauv me me tuaj yeem ua rau peb muaj peev xwm vam meej nyob rau lub sijhawm. Kev hloov me me nws tus kheej yuav zoo li qhov me me, tab sis kho nws zoo li tseem nyob hauv cov yeeb yaj kiab. Yog tias koj hloov txhua yam hauv cov ntas, koj yuav tau txais zaj duab xis tshiab uas yuav hais txog qee yam sib txawv kiag li.
Yog tias peb txoj hauv kev mus rau cov teeb meem yog qhov mob siab heev ("Kuv xav tau txoj haujlwm tshiab!") Kev cia siab tuaj yeem xav tau. Tab sis yog tias peb ua cov kauj ruam me me ("Kuv yuav muaj kev sib tham nrog ib tus neeg sawv cev ntawm lwm tus kheej") qhov ua tsis tiav yuav tsis tseem ceeb. Thaum peb paub tias peb tsis poob ntau, peb cov kev ntxhov siab tau qis thiab peb txoj kev ntseeg siab nce. Muaj qhov kev xav "Kuv tuaj yeem daws nws", uas yuav pab ua thiab tsim ntau ntxiv.
Muaj peb thaj chaw rau kev hloov pauv me me. Koj tuaj yeem hloov pauv kev ntseeg, dab tsi uas kws kho kev puas siab ntsws hu rau tus cwj pwm, koj tuaj yeem hloov kev txhawb siab thiab koj tuaj yeem hloov tus cwj pwm. Thaum koj kawm ua qhov hloov pauv me me hauv ib qho ntawm cov lus qhia no, koj tuaj yeem hloov kho kom tob, hloov pauv tas mus li hauv peb lub neej.
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Jorge Bucay yog tus kws kho mob hlwb Argentina thiab kws sau ntawv. Nws mob siab rau ntau dua 30 xyoo rau kev kho hlwb, tom qab ntawd nws hloov mus rau kev sau phau ntawv. "Kuv sim muab tso rau hauv txhua kab lus tsuas yog kev xav, cov txiaj ntsig uas kuv tau ntseeg los ntawm kuv tus kheej kev paub.
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Kuv xav ntev tias nws puas tsim nyog sau txog kuv tus kheej. Tab sis tom qab ntawd kuv txiav txim siab sau, vim nws ncaj ncees dua. Lub algorithm tsis yog pov thawj kev ua haujlwm los ntawm ib tus neeg. Nws yog raws li kuv qhov kev paub dhau los, thiab tau kawg ntawm kuv tus kheej kev tshawb fawb txog qhov teeb meem no los ntawm kev xav thiab kev paub ntawm lwm tus neeg.
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Kev nqis tes ua yog qhov tseem ceeb tshaj plaws hauv kev ua tiav koj lub hom phiaj, tab sis dab tsi txog cov uas tsis tuaj yeem txiav txim siab seb yuav tsum ua thawj kauj ruam twg? Puas yog cov uas tau ua ntau kauj ruam, tab sis tau khiav mus rau qhov kawg?
Txoj Cai 12. Thawj Kauj Ruam Rau Lub Neej Ntawm Koj Txoj Kev Npau Suav Lossis Ua Raws Li Yog
Ib qho ntawm cov tswv yim zoo rau kev ua tiav yog ua thiab xav zoo li koj twb ua tiav qhov koj npau suav ntawm, uas koj tau dhau los ua yam koj xav tau. Qhov no txhais tau tias xav, tham, hnav khaub ncaws, ua yeeb yam, thiab xav tias koj xav ua leej twg.
Yuav Npaj Tus Menyuam Li Cas Thaum Yug Menyuam. Kauj Ruam Los Ntawm Kauj Ruam Qhia
Koj puas tau yuav yuav ob qho khoom ua si uas zoo ib yam, vim tias yog koj yuav ib qho rau ib qho, yuav muaj kev txaj muag lossis kev npau taws hauv tsev? Thiab hais tias: "Muab rau! Zoo, koj yog tus laus "? Thiab piav qhia rau tus menyuam tias nws tus viv ncaus yog tus neeg ze tshaj thiab hlub tshaj plaws rau nws thiab nws ib txwm xav ua lub roob rau ib leeg?
