2024 Tus sau: Harry Day | [email protected]. Kawg hloov kho: 2023-12-17 15:46
Muaj pes tsawg zaus peb tau chim siab los ntawm qee qhov xwm txheej, thiab kev xav ntawm kev chim siab lossis npau taws tau txais lub suab nrov uas lawv cuam tshuam nrog ua qhov uas tau npaj tseg. Koj puas tau xav txog qhov tseeb uas feem ntau tom qab qhov ua rau peb mob siab yuav tsis yog qhov xwm txheej nws tus kheej, tab sis peb lub tswv yim txog nws?!
Los ntawm koob, piv txwv li: "tus neeg ntawd tau saib kuv zoo li xav tias muaj qee yam tsis raug hauv kuv". Thiab tom qab ntawd kev npau suav thiab kev ntxhov siab tuaj yeem nthuav tawm tag nrho lub sijhawm ntawm ntau qhov kev xav tsis zoo thiab kev xav, mus txog qhov xav tsis zoo rau tag nrho hnub. Qhov piv txwv no yog superficial heev, tab sis xav txog tej yam loj dua thiab tseem ceeb! Los ntawm kev tsom mus rau koj qhov kev xav tsis zoo, yam tsis tau sim nkag siab, qhia meej thiab txheeb xyuas lawv, koj tuaj yeem ua rau muaj kev sib raug zoo tseem ceeb thiab ua rau koj tus kheej poob siab.
Koj tuaj yeem ua dab tsi los pab koj tus kheej hauv qhov teeb meem no?! Yog tias qee qhov kev xav tsis zoo tau tshwm sim tom qab qhov xwm txheej thiab nws tsis tuaj yeem rov qab mus rau ib qho xwm txheej, tom qab ntawd nws ua rau txiav txim siab los txiav txim siab qhov teeb meem no hauv qab iav tsom iav:
1. mloog koj tus kheej thiab sim txheeb xyuas koj qhov kev xav / kev xav. Nws yog ib qho tseem ceeb! Vim tias qee zaum qhov kev xav zoo ib yam kev chim siab, piv txwv li, tuaj yeem zais ob qho kev npau taws thiab poob siab.
2. Tau txheeb xyuas qhov kev xav, tom qab ntawd koj yuav tsum lees paub tias nws cuam tshuam nrog koj li cas, thiab tsis yog rau qhov xwm txheej nws tus kheej lossis rau nws cov neeg koom nrog. Sab hauv "Kuv-nqe lus" tuaj yeem pab tus txheej txheem no, piv txwv li: "thaum nws tshwm sim … Kuv xav / a … vim … thiab kuv xav tau qhov ntawd … thiab tom qab ntawd …"
Feem ntau txoj kev sib txuas lus no tau pom zoo rau kev tsim kom muaj kev sib raug zoo. Nws txo qis qib kev nruj, tswj hwm lub siab lub ntsws thiab ua rau nws muaj peev xwm hais tau zoo txog koj qhov kev tsis txaus siab nrog qhov xwm txheej, thiab tsis yog nrog tus neeg tshwj xeeb. Tab sis yog tias nws zoo heev ntawm kev sib tham nrog ib tus neeg, tom qab ntawd koj yuav tsum tsis txhob poob siab nws lub peev xwm, siv nws los tham nrog koj tus kheej. Qhov tseeb, qee zaum, nws yooj yim to taub lwm tus dua li ntawm koj tus kheej.
3. Ua "kev xav" - pov txhua hom kev xaiv (txawm tias tsis zoo li), vim li cas lwm tus koom nrog / thiab tuaj yeem tshwm sim zoo li no. Piv txwv, txuas ntxiv qhov qub piv txwv. Nws tuaj yeem kwv yees tau tias tus neeg tau saib vim: qhuas; tsis txawv nyob rau hauv tact; nws ntsia ib tus neeg nyob ze lossis txawm saib dhau los, "thim rov rau nws tus kheej." Thiab ntawm no yog vim li cas thiab dab tsi qhov kev qaug zog ntawm tus neeg txhawb nqa tshwm sim tias qhov kev xav tau tshwm sim "pom meej tias muaj qee yam tsis raug hauv kuv" - lus nug txog nws, txog nws thiab, ntawm chav kawm, rau nws.
Tsuas yog los ntawm kev nug cov lus nug no rau koj tus kheej, ib tus yuav tsum tsis txhob hnov qab tias lawv tsis tsom mus rau lub luag haujlwm rau qhov xwm txheej tsis zoo rau koj tus kheej tag nrho lossis ib feem, ntawm txoj cai ntawm "samdurakvinovat lossis samaduravinovat", tab sis yog tsom rau kev nkag siab ntawm koj txoj kev xav txhawm rau pab koj tus kheej tiv nrog lawv!
Txhawm rau nkag siab koj tus kheej, txhawm rau kom koj qhov kev xav tsis zoo yog paub txog koj tus cwj pwm, kev ntseeg, yog li tom qab ntawd koj tuaj yeem ntsuas koj cov tshuaj tiv thaiv thiab tshuaj xyuas nws rau "kev tsim nyog" rau qhov xwm txheej, thiab tsis yog txhawm rau liam koj tus kheej rau nws. Thaum tau txheeb xyuas qhov "kev tsim nyog", nws muaj peev xwm ua kom ze rau qhov sib npaug hauv lawv cov kev xav: qee zaum koj yuav tsum sawv ntawm koj tus kheej, thiab qee zaum koj yuav tsum tsis txhob tawm tsam lwm tus vim yog koj tus kheej ua rau.
Zoo, yog tias koj tsis tuaj yeem nug koj tus kheej cov lus nug thiab nrhiav cov lus teb ntawm koj tus kheej, kev pab los ntawm tus kws kho paj hlwb yuav pab koj pib cov txheej txheem no kom muaj kev sib npaug thiab sib haum xeeb tshwm sim hauv koj lub neej.
Pom zoo:
Kev Txhawj Xeeb Thiab Ceeb Ntshai. Qhov Tseem Ceeb Ntawm Kev Muaj Tswv Yim Hauv Kev Kov Yeej Lawv
Kev ntshai nres yog qhov nyuaj heev, yog tias tsis yooj yim sua, tsuas yog tsoo los ntawm lub zog. Koj tsis tuaj yeem hais rau koj tus kheej "tsis txhob poob siab" thiab yog li tua txhua yam. Qhov no tuaj yeem ua haujlwm yog tias lub hauv ntej cortex muaj kev sib haum xeeb, thiab koj cia li ntseeg tias txhua yam tsis txaus ntshai thiab txhua yam dhau los.
Kev Daws Cov Tswv Yim: Yuav Ua Li Cas Peb Ua Hauv Cov Xwm Txheej Nyuaj Siab Thiab Txhua Lub Tswv Yim Muaj Txiaj Ntsig
Kev daws cov tswv yim - cov tswv yim rau kev kov yeej cov xwm txheej ntxhov siab (daws - daws). Muaj ntau txoj hauv kev los kawm txog kev daws teeb meem: peev txheej, tus kheej, xwm txheej. Cov peev txheej xav tau tias txhua tus neeg muaj cov khoom siv tshwj xeeb (khoom siv, kev sib raug zoo, lub cev, sab ntsuj plig), uas pab nws kov yeej qhov xwm txheej ntxhov siab.
"Tej Zaum Nws Yuav Dhau Mus," Lossis Vim Li Cas Nws Thiaj Tsis Ploj Mus Ntawm Nws Tus Kheej? Los Yog Xav Txog "qhov Tseem Ceeb Ntawm Tus Kws Kho Mob Hlwb"
Tsis ntev los no, ntawm kev sib tham, ib tus npoj yaig tau qhia tawm tias cov lus nug nrov heev hauv Yandex suab zoo li "lub ntsiab lus ntawm tus kws kho kev puas siab ntsws" - koj tuaj yeem tshawb xyuas yog tias qhov no yog li ntawd tiag.
Kev Kho Mob Txuj Ci Tseem Ceeb Lossis Qhov Xwm Txheej Zoo Nkauj? Cov Pov Thawj Tsis Txaus Ntseeg
Cov ntawv thesis uas tib neeg txoj hmoo (rau feem ntau) tau tsim (txhawb nqa, tso tawm) los ntawm peb cov haujlwm sab hauv tsis zoo li yuav tsis muaj leej twg xav tsis thoob hauv peb lub sijhawm, puas yog? Nws yog rau qhov no (suav nrog) uas tib neeg tig los rau peb, kws kho kev puas siab ntsws:
Cov Tswv Yim Hais Txog Kev Puas Siab Ntsws Thiab Kev Tawm Tswv Yim Txog Kev Puas Siab Puas Ntsws
Tig mus rau cov kws tshaj lij thiab cov kws tshaj lij yog ib qho kev coj ua niaj hnub no. Txhawm rau txhim kho khau, hloov roj hauv tsheb, kho hniav - muaj ntau yam tshwj xeeb xws li tshwj xeeb txawm tias nyob hauv cov nroog me. Txhua yam yooj yim thiab meej nrog lawv cov kev pabcuam:
