2024 Tus sau: Harry Day | [email protected]. Kawg hloov kho: 2023-12-17 15:46
Ib feem ntawm kuv phau ntawv "Peb ua dab tsi cuam tshuam nrog kev hlub, lossis nws puas yog Kev Hlub".
Cov lus sov: qhuas thiab ua tsaug
Cov lus sov ua rau ob niam txiv xis nyob.
Kev qhia ua tsaug pab qhia kom meej tias tus koom tes muaj txiaj ntsig thiab lawv cov kev coj ua muaj txiaj ntsig thiab tseem ceeb.
Kev qhuas tseem pab koj tus khub xav tias muaj txiaj ntsig, tseem ceeb, thiab tshwj xeeb.
Txawm li cas los xij, koj kuj yuav tsum kawm paub hais lus sov thiab saib rau qhov kev xaiv uas haum rau hauv ib khub. Muaj qee cov ntsiab cai dav dav, tab sis nws yog ib qho tseem ceeb kom qhia meej thiab pom zoo ntawm cov ntsiab lus ntawm tus kheej.
Nws yog ib qho tseem ceeb kom hais lus sov siab ua siab ncaj thiab muaj kev sov siab hauv koj lub siab. Kev tsim txom "ua tsaug" hais nrog kev chim siab yuav zoo li kev thuam ntau dua li kev ris txiaj.
Txhawm rau hais lus zoo, nws yog ib qho tseem ceeb kom pom cov ntsiab lus thiab ua suab nrov.
Tsuas yog "ua tsaug" yog qhov dav heev. Nws tuaj yeem sau tseg rau qhov ua - "ua tsaug rau kev pab kuv nrog qhov no thiab qhov ntawd". Nws tuaj yeem sau tseg dab tsi qhov no yog qhov tseem ceeb - "nws tau pab kuv kom ua tiav cov khoom sai dua thiab kuv muaj peev xwm siv sijhawm ntau rau tus menyuam." Qee qhov ua tau zoo tuaj yeem sau tseg - "koj tau ua nws ntse heev". Nws tuaj yeem raug sau tseg tus nqi ntawm qhov tseeb tias tus neeg pom lub sijhawm, txawm tias nws tsis khoom. Koj tseem tuaj yeem hais qhia kev ris txiaj rau lub hom phiaj los pab, txawm tias qhov kev pab nws tus kheej tsis tau ua, yog tias nws tsis tsim nyog.
Kev qhuas yog tib yam. "Koj saib zoo" yog qhov dav heev. Koj tuaj yeem piav qhia qhov tseeb yog qhov zoo nkauj npaum li cas. "Qhov hnav ris tsho no tshwj xeeb tshaj yog hais txog koj lub cev." Tab sis tsis yog "Koj zoo nkauj heev hauv qhov hnav ris tsho no" (qhov no yog kev tawm tsam kev qhuas). "Hauv daim duab no koj tuaj yeem pom tshwj xeeb tshaj yog tias koj lub qhov muag ci thiab luag ntxhi zoo li cas." Tab sis tsis yog "Nov yog daim duab zoo" (qhov no yog kev tawm tsam kev qhuas). "Kuv nyiam koj lub suab" tuaj yeem nthuav nrog cov lus piv txwv lossis koj tus kheej txoj kev xav "Thaum kuv hnov koj lub suab, kuv zoo li nyob ntsiag to, Kuv hnov koj sov siab thiab txhawb koj lub zog ntawm koj lub suab."
Ib txoj hauv kev lossis lwm qhov, nws yog qhov tseem ceeb los tham nrog koj tus khub uas hom lus sov yog qhov ntxim siab tshaj thiab nkag siab rau nws.
Tsim kev thuam
Tsis yog, ntawm chav kawm, peb tsis tuaj yeem thiab yuav tsum tsis txhob cia li "txhuam cov plaub hau" ntawm ib tus neeg.
Muaj qee yam uas peb tsis nyiam thiab peb yuav tsum tham txog lawv. Tab sis kev thuam yuav tsum yog tsim.
Kev thuam tsis tsim nyog:
- Kev hloov pauv ntawm tib neeg ua rau tib neeg tus yam ntxwv. "Koj tuaj lig" yog kev nqis tes ua. "Koj lig" yog kev hloov pauv mus rau tus kheej, kev sim piav qhia qhov tsis zoo rau tus neeg. Ib yam li ntawd, “koj yog neeg ruam,” “koj yog kapusha,” “tsuas yog ib tus neeg ruam thiaj ua tau li ntawd,” thiab lwm yam.
- Generalization. "Koj ib txwm", "Koj tsis tau," "Txhua yam tsis zoo," "Tsis muaj dab tsi yuav ua haujlwm," "Koj tsis tuaj yeem ua dab tsi," thiab lwm yam. Zam kev paub meej thiab tshwj xeeb.
- Khav los yog liam liam. Lub hom phiaj yog ua kom txaj muag, tsis daws teeb meem. Los ntawm txoj kev, qhov no tuaj yeem yog ib qho qhia txog kev npau taws lossis npau taws.
- Kev sim "txhim kho" tus neeg hauv thaj chaw uas tsis cuam tshuam rau peb lub luag haujlwm.
Tsim kev thuam:
1. Lub hom phiaj ntawm kev thuam thuam - yog qee yam "mus tsis raug, tom qab ntawd xa mus rau tus khub tias qhov twg tsis raug, thiab yuav hloov dab tsi thiaj li ua" zoo li ". Los ntawm qhov tsis raug, kev thuam muaj peev xwm ua tau hauv thaj chaw uas cuam tshuam nrog kev koom tes nrog tus khub lossis qee yam ntawm cov ntsiab lus sib koom ua ke. Lub neej, poj niam txiv neej, kev sib txuas lus nrog lwm tus, thiab lwm yam.
Piv txwv li, tus khub lub ntsej muag tsis yog ib feem ntawm cov ntsiab lus sib koom. Tau kawg, nws tsim nyog tshaj tawm yog tias muaj lub qhov nyob hauv cov khaub ncaws, thiab tus khub tsis pom. Tab sis peb tsis tuaj yeem "rov kawm dua" tus khub. Peb tsuas tuaj yeem tawm tswv yim, piv txwv li, yog tias qee yam los ntawm cov khaub ncaws ua rau peb chim siab heev, peb tuaj yeem sib tham txog peb cov kev xav, tab sis peb tsis tuaj yeem thuam tus saj ntawm peb tus khub.
Yog tias peb muaj cov txuj ci hauv qee thaj chaw uas tus khub nyuam qhuav pib ua tus tswv, tom qab ntawd peb tuaj yeem muab kev pab rau peb, tab sis peb yuav tsum tsis txhob dhau los ua "tus kws qhia phem" thiab hnia peb lub qhov ntswg "txhua yam tsis zoo, rov ua dua".
Yog li, lub hom phiaj ntawm kev thuam thuam yog hloov qhov xwm txheej hauv qhov uas nws haum rau ob leeg.
2. Nws yog qhov tsim nyog los tswj hwm tus neeg. Tsis txhob ua tus kheej thiab thuam. Tsis txhob teem lub hom phiaj kom raug mob lossis ua pov thawj tias "Kuv zoo dua." Nco ntsoov tias kuv tus khub thiab kuv tseem yog ib pab, thiab peb txoj haujlwm yog nkag siab ib leeg, thiab tsis txhob sib cav.
3. Nws tsim nyog piav qhia ntxaws txog qhov tsis raug, yog vim li cas tsis yog, thiab xav tau dab tsi los ua li ntawd. Koj tseem tuaj yeem hais qhia nrhiav kev daws teeb meem ua ke.
"Qhov qaub no yog 10%, yog li nws ua rau hauv cov ntses. Yog li, thov yuav 15%. Thiab thov txheeb xyuas hnub tim: yog tias nws tau sawv ib lub lim tiam, nws tseem yuav tawg."
"Thaum koj ntau dua 10 feeb lig, kuv tau ntxhov siab vim tias kuv muaj lwm yam los ua ib yam nkaus, thiab kuv kuj xav so, tab sis thaum kuv tseem tos koj, kuv tsis ua lag luam, thiab kuv tsis ua so, nws ua rau kuv qaug zog thiab nyuaj siab. Koj xav tias peb tuaj yeem daws qhov teeb meem no li cas?"
4. Dhau li qhov "tsis raug", nws tseem tsim nyog sau cia tias "yog li". Ua kev zoo siab rau lub sijhawm zoo, qhia kev ua tsaug, thiab ua kev zoo siab qhov tseem ceeb thiab muaj txiaj ntsig ntawm tus khub txoj kev ua lossis kev mob siab rau.
5. Yog tias koj xav hais ib yam dab tsi, tab sis nws txaus ntshai ua rau neeg tsis txaus siab, koj tuaj yeem siv cov lus hauv qab no raws li hauv qab no: “Kuv xav tham txog ib qho teeb meem nrog koj, tab sis kuv ntshai tias koj yuav chim siab / chim siab / npau taws Kuv yuav tsis xav tau. Kuv xav kom koj paub tias kuv txaus siab rau koj cov kev ua. Thiab yog tias peb tham thiab daws qhov teeb meem no, ces ob leeg ntawm peb yuav dhau los ua neeg nyiam dua."
Cov lus pom zoo rau kev thuam tseem yuav tsum tau xaiv tus kheej hauv txhua khub rau txhua tus khub.
Phau ntawv "Peb cuam tshuam dab tsi txog kev hlub nrog, lossis Kev Hlub Qhov no" muaj nyob rau ntawm Liters thiab MyBook.
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Nyob zoo! Hauv kab lus luv luv niaj hnub no, kuv xav qhia rau koj ob peb lub tswv yim yooj yim uas yuav daws tau cov teeb meem kev sib txuas lus feem ntau | Lub sijhawm nyeem ntawv 3 feeb Peb tsis raug qhia kom sib txuas lus kom raug.
