5 Yam Lus Ntawm Kev Hlub

2024 Tus sau: Harry Day | [email protected]. Kawg hloov kho: 2023-12-17 15:46

Coob leej ntawm koj yuav tau nyeem phau ntawv los ntawm Gary Chapman, Tsib Yam Lus ntawm Kev Hlub. Cia peb xam nws tawm - lawv yog tus neeg tshwj xeeb rau dab tsi, tib neeg xav tau dab tsi, vim li cas nws thiaj xav tau feem ntau, vim li cas nws thiaj li tseem ceeb kom paub txog tej yam no thiab yuav siv qhov kev paub no li cas hauv kev coj ua?

1. Yog li, thawj hom lus ntawm kev hlub yog lo lus pom zoo, txhawb nqa, ua tsaug (koj tseem ceeb rau kuv, Kuv zoo siab rau koj). Hauv txoj ntsiab cai, qhov no tuaj yeem yog txhua qhov kev sib tham - txawj ntse (feem ntau), sib tham ntawm cov ncauj lus lossis kev nyiam. Yog tias koj yog tus yam ntxwv ntawm cov lus hlub no, koj yuav tsis xav tias tsis muaj kev tawm tswv yim ("Auj! Koj tau ua txoj haujlwm zoo! Koj ua tau zoo!"). Yog li, yog tias koj paub tseeb tias nws yog ib qho tseem ceeb rau koj tus khub kom hnov cov lus pom zoo thiab txhawb nqa, sim muab nws cov lus teb ntau dua ("Kuv pom tias koj tau ua nws!", "Koj ntxuav cov tais diav, ua tsaug!"). Txawm tias cov kab lus hauv paus tseem ceeb heev rau tus neeg, thiab los ntawm lub neej ntawd nws yuav txhais tau tias "Kuv hlub koj!".

2. Khoom plig. Muaj ib pawg neeg uas nws yog qhov tseem ceeb kom tau txais khoom plig (feem ntau yog poj niam thiab menyuam yaus, tab sis qee zaum kuj tseem muaj txiv neej uas nyiam khoom plig). Qhov no tsis tau txhais hais tias koj yuav tsum tau muab lub nkoj yacht, chav tsev, tsheb lossis qee yam "vwm vwm". Hauv cov ntsiab lus ntawm cov lus hlub no, nws yog qhov tseem ceeb dua rau tus neeg kom tau txais khoom plig tsis yog rau hnub so, tsis yog rau qee lub sijhawm, tab sis tsuas yog zoo li ntawd (tus khub pom cov ris tsho zoo nkauj, lub tsho, thiab lwm yam - nws yuav nws). Rau menyuam yaus, feem ntau nws tuaj yeem yog khoom qab zib, chocolate bar, trinket, qee yam tsis tseem ceeb. Qhov khoom plig nws tus kheej tsis tseem ceeb, kev saib xyuas tseem ceeb. Txawm li cas los xij, yog tias koj xaiv khoom plig, suav nrog tus neeg saj, nws yuav yog ib qib zoo, thiab teb koj yuav hnov: "Au Vajtswv, koj hlub kuv npaum li cas!"

3. Kov. Cov neeg uas muaj tus yam ntxwv ntawm hom lus no hlub puag, hnia, mob hlab ntsha tawg, kov. Thaum koj taug kev yav dhau los koj tus khub, rub lawv nraub qaum lossis plaub hau. Yog tias qhov no yog poj niam, khawm thiab hnia ntau zaus, yuam kev kov. Cia kuv muab piv txwv rau koj los ntawm kev sib txuas lus nrog cov neeg siv khoom. Tus ntxhais, tham nrog tus txiv leej tub, nug nws ib lo lus nug: "Puas yog txhua yam hauv kev sib raug zoo ntawm peb?" Hauv kev teb, tus khub tuaj txog thiab puag nws. Rau nws nws yog hom lus ntawm kev hlub, los ntawm nws qhov kev ua nws hais tias: "Yog lawm, kuv hlub koj!".

4. Lub sijhawm zoo siv ua ke. Rau menyuam yaus, teev ib hnub nrog lawv niam thiab txiv yog qee zaum txaus. Yog li koj tuaj yeem siv sijhawm ib hnub nrog niam, ib hnub nrog txiv, ib hnub nrog pog, thiab lwm yam. Lub ntsiab lus tseem ceeb yog tias niam txiv yuav tsum koom nrog txoj kev xav ntawm nws tus menyuam (lossis tus khub). Hais lus zoo, yog tias koj tus khub hlub xav txog kev tsim qauv ntawm Hnub Nyoog Nruab Nrab hauv tebchaws Ltalis, txhawb nws hauv qhov haujlwm nyiam no (saib cov duab, nug cov lus nug - cia nws hnov qhov nyiam ntawm tus hlub). Koj tuaj yeem saib yeeb yaj kiab ua ke (tsuas yog saib, tsis zaum hauv xov tooj), thiab tom qab ntawd tham txog lub sijhawm nthuav (Koj nyiam dab tsi? Dab tsi ntshai? Thiab qhov xwm txheej no zoo li cas?), Yuav tsum muaj kev xav koom nrog. Yog tias koj tus khub txaus siab siv sijhawm ua ke, ua tib zoo mloog rau qhov teeb meem no. Txhua khub niam txiv yuav tsum siv sijhawm zoo ua ke, tab sis rau ib tus neeg 15 feeb yog txaus, thiab rau ib tus neeg hauv ib hnub tsis txaus. Saib xyuas koj tus khub, ntsuas koj li kev sib raug zoo los ntawm sab nraud, thiab xam seb nws yuav siv sij hawm ntev npaum li cas rau koj.

5. Qhov kev hlub thib tsib yog pab. Hauv ob peb, kev tsis txaus siab feem ntau tshwm sim - "yog, nws tsis txawm rauj rau tus ntsia thawv," "ntawm no nws tsis paub yuav ua li cas ua noj borscht." Qhia txog qhov tsis txaus siab, ib tus neeg qhia meej tias nws yog ib qho tseem ceeb rau nws uas lawv ua noj borscht rau nws lossis piv txwv li, ntxuav cov plag tsev hauv tsev (ntawm tus poj niam sab - rauj rau tus ntsia hlau, kho qee yam, kho lub rooj zaum, tshuab ntxhua khaub ncaws, khaws cov pob, thiab lwm yam) - qhov ntawd yog qhov nws xav tias nyiam. Qhov no tuaj yeem pab ob leeg nyob ib puag ncig lub tsev thiab nrog cov phiaj xwm.

Yog tias koj tus khub muaj hom lus hlub no, sim ua ntau ntxiv rau nws.

Vim li cas nws thiaj tseem ceeb kom paub cov lus ntawm kev hlub? Heev feem ntau, cov neeg koom tes sib cav tawm ntawm lub xiav (piv txwv li, rau ib qho nws tau piav tes piav taw ntawm kev hlub, thiab rau lwm qhov nws yog "tsis muaj dab tsi"). Nws yog ib qho tseem ceeb kom nkag siab koj hom lus hlub (dab tsi yog qhov tseem ceeb tshaj rau koj, dab tsi yuav yog qhov tshwm sim loj tshaj plaws ntawm kev hlub los ntawm tus khub) thiab hais dab tsi raws nraim qhov koj xav tau txais los ntawm koj tus hlub ("Kuv xav tau qhov no, qhov no yog li cas kuv xav tias hlub lossis hlub!”). Nco ntsoov kom paub seb hom lus hlub koj tus khub muaj, thiab tsuas yog hauv txoj kev no koj yuav hnov ntau lossis tsawg dua kev ntseeg hauv ob niam txiv, nkag siab tias koj ua dab tsi rau koj tus kheej thiab yog dab tsi rau nws. Raws li, tus neeg nyob ze koj yuav muaj peev xwm txaus siab rau koj cov kev rau siab thiab ua haujlwm, lub sijhawm siv (tej zaum qee qhov los ntawm kev quab yuam) kom nws xav tias hlub.

Qhia, sib txuas lus nrog koj tus hlub, txhais koj cov lus nyiam thiab coj nws mus rau lub neej!