2024 Tus sau: Harry Day | [email protected]. Kawg hloov kho: 2023-12-17 15:46
Daim duab ci thiab zoo nkauj hauv TV nyiam tus menyuam. Hauv ob lossis ob thiab ib nrab xyoo, koj tuaj yeem hnov los ntawm koj tus menyuam qhov xav tau "Kuv xav tau daim duab tas luav!" - txawm hais tias feem ntau, cov phiaj xwm, uas tsis hloov pauv rau lub hnub nyoog thiab qib kev txhim kho ntawm tus menyuam tshwj xeeb, tseem dhau qhov nkag siab rau nws.
Vim li cas TV thiaj li ntxim nyiam rau menyuam?
Cov duab virtual coj tus menyuam tawm ntawm qhov tseeb ib ntus. Hauv xinesmas, menyuam yaus paub tias lawv tab tom ntsib qee yam sab nraud rau lawv, txwv sijhawm thiab thaj chaw, vim mus ib txwm ua kev cai raus dej uas cuam tshuam nrog qee ntu, chav tsaus ntuj, muaj lwm tus neeg saib. Thiab nyob rau hauv pem hauv ntej ntawm TV, tus menyuam tau ntsib nrog cov kwj ntawm cov duab tawg, tseem nyob hauv qhov chaw ib puag ncig. Nws nyuaj dua rau nws kom nrug nws tus kheej los ntawm qhov tshwm sim ntawm lub vijtsam - thiab cov nyom uas ua rau muaj zog tuaj.
Cov yeeb yaj kiab hauv TV muaj kev cuam tshuam dab tsi rau tus menyuam?
Txog thaum muaj hnub nyoog 3-4 xyoos, cov menyuam nyiam los ntawm kev txav ntawm lub vijtsam. Nws nyuaj rau lawv kom paub qhov txawv ntawm qhov tiag thiab kev xav txog thaum lawv muaj 7 xyoo; los ntawm 4 txog 7, kev qhia tus kheej yeej: cov menyuam sib piv lawv tus kheej nrog lawv tus nyiam nyiam thiab xav kom zoo li lawv. Tom qab 7 xyoo, lawv muaj peev xwm cuam tshuam txog TV cov duab thiab cov dab neeg rau qhov tseeb. Lawv twb muaj tswv yim txog sijhawm thiab chaw nyob, thiab lawv kawm los tshuaj xyuas, laj thawj, tiv thaiv lawv qhov kev xav. Cov peev xwm no tau tsim los ntawm hnub nyoog 10-11, thaum cov ntsiab lus ntawm yam uas tau pom dhau los ua qhov tseem ceeb tshaj plaws. Txij thaum txog hnub nyoog no, cov menyuam tuaj yeem xaiv cov khoos kas uas lawv yuav saib, nrog rau so los ntawm saib cov program. Thaum lawv tseem hluas (hnub nyoog 12-13 xyoos), TV muaj sijhawm txaus los nrog lawv noj, thiab lawv hloov mus ua video games. Cov ntsiab lus ntawm cov duab dhau los ua qhov tseem ceeb, theem tshiab ntawm kev qhia paub pib. Txheeb xyuas lawv tus kheej nrog cov yeeb yaj kiab thiab TV yeeb yaj kiab, cov menyuam nyiam cov cim uas txhawb lawv tus yam ntxwv: cov tub hluas muaj zog thiab ua siab loj, cov ntxhais zoo nkauj thiab ntxim nyiam. Lub sijhawm no, nws tseem ceeb dua rau cov niam txiv kom qhia tshwj xeeb rau kev xaiv thiab tham txog TV program.
Thaum muaj hnub nyoog li cas menyuam tuaj yeem saib TV yam tsis muaj neeg laus?
Los ntawm kwv yees li 7 xyoos lawv tuaj yeem ua nws tus kheej, tab sis nws yog qhov siv tau txawm tias thaum muaj 4 xyoos tso tus menyuam nyob ib leeg saib lub cassette nrog cov duab tas luav. Yog tias nws sawv ntxov ntxov rau hnub so, thiab nws niam thiab txiv tseem xav pw, tsis muaj dab tsi tsis zoo nrog saib menyuam yaus lossis menyuam yaus ua yeeb yam hauv TV, txawm hais tias koj yuav tsum tsis txhob siv TV tas li tsis muaj niam txiv. Cov niam txiv yuav tsum coj tus menyuam txoj kev xaiv, pab nws loj hlob, paub nws tus kheej thiab lub ntiaj teb ib puag ncig nws, thiab TV yuav tsum tsis yog qhov zam rau txoj cai no.
Muab ncua
Tus kws sau ntawv Simon Soloveichik tau hais tias "Kwv yees li lub Ob Hlis ntawm txhua xyoo, kuv tau zais ib yam dab tsi los ntawm lub cuab yeej. Thiab tsis muaj sijhawm hu xov tooj rau tus tswv, thiab tsis muaj nyiaj los kho, thiab txhua yam kev nyuaj tau tshwm sim kom txog thaum cov menyuam tau siv lub neej tsis muaj TV thiab tsis tuaj rau lawv mloog: lawv rov pib nyeem phau ntawv, taug kev hauv vaj, lawv muaj phooj ywg dua, thiab cov cim tau zoo dua … Ob lossis peb lub hlis tom qab, tom qab sib sib zog nqus tsev neeg, lub TV tau teeb tsa kom raug (yog tias kuv nco qab tias kuv tau zais qhov twg thiab qhov twg nws yuav tsum tau muab tso), thiab kev zoo siab tuaj - TV tau ua haujlwm!"
Cov iav twg xaiv?
Cov menyuam yaus yuav tsum tsuas yog saib TV zoo qhia los ntawm tus kws tshaj lij thiab tsim nyog rau lawv lub hnub nyoog. Tab sis tib lub sijhawm, nws zoo dua rau menyuam yaus saib cov yeeb yaj kiab neeg laus zoo nrog nws niam nws txiv (ntawm chav kawm, yog tias tsis muaj kev sib deev thiab kev ua phem nyob hauv nws) ntau dua li ib qho ntawm cov yeeb yaj kiab tsis muaj qhov kawg (txawm hais tias lawv tau tsim tshwj xeeb rau menyuam yaus). Cov niam txiv yuav tsum nkag siab tias muaj cov phiaj xwm uas muaj txiaj ntsig zoo rau kev txhim kho tus menyuam, muaj kev phom sij tiag tiag, thiab muaj qhov nruab nrab - tsis muaj txiaj ntsig, tab sis kuj tsis muaj teeb meem. Hais txog qhov kawg, koj tsis tas yuav tsoo hmuv: lawv tsis tsim nyog los rhuav koj txoj kev sib raug zoo nrog tus menyuam vim lawv.
Kuv yuav teeb tsa "saib quota" li cas?
Txij thaum pib los, cov niam txiv yuav tsum pom zoo nrog tus menyuam txog lub sijhawm nws yuav saib TV ntau npaum li cas hauv ib hnub, ib asthiv. Tsis mloog zoo rau lub sijhawm saib, tab sis ntawm cov ntsiab lus ntawm cov haujlwm: saib TV program ua ke, xaiv cov kab xev. Qhov no yuav pab nws xav tias zoo li tus neeg koom nrog hauv qhov kev xaiv, thiab tsis yog tus neeg saib tsis pom kev. Txheeb xyuas qhov kev pom zoo txhua 2-3 lub lis piam. Thaum tham txog txoj haujlwm thiab sijhawm saib (tsuas yog hnub so, ib nrab teev ib hnub, lossis lwm yam), lo lus ntawm niam txiv yuav tsum txiav txim siab. Thaum tus menyuam loj hlob thiab npaj txhij los xaiv cov phiaj xwm rau nws tus kheej, nws yog ib qho tseem ceeb uas yuav tau sib tham ntxiv ua ke seb qhov twg yog qhov tsim nyog saib.
Koj tuaj yeem ua dab tsi kom lawv ua raws li cov cai tsim tseg?
Nws tsis yooj yim sua kom sawv ntsug nyob tom qab tus menyuam lub nraub qaum, tshwj xeeb tshaj yog thaum niam txiv ua haujlwm. Ib txoj hauv kev tawm uas tsim nyog yog kom coj lawv mus rau qee txoj cai kom ntxov li sai tau, thaum tus menyuam tseem me, tom qab ntawd koj yuav tsis tau thov "kev rau txim" tom qab. Ib txwm piav qhia rau nws koj txoj haujlwm thiab yog vim li cas koj thiaj txwv lub sijhawm saib.
TV hauv chaw zov me nyuam: nws puas txaus ntshai?
Chaw zov me nyuam tsis yog qhov chaw rau TV. Tus neeg txais lub suab tig mus rau hauv keeb kwm yav dhau uas paub, thiab tus menyuam tsis tshua pom muaj txiaj ntsig ntau, cov haujlwm txhim kho rau nws tus kheej. Tau txais qhov saj rau qhov txaus siab txaus nyiam, nws yuav tsis xav siv zog ua si, nyeem, xav - uas yog qhov tsim nyog los tsim nws tus kheej txoj kev xav.
Nws nyiam cov phiaj xwm ruam. Yuav ua li cas?
Cov niam txiv muaj txoj cai txwv qee yam haujlwm. Tab sis dab tsi cov neeg laus xav tias ua tiav qhov tsis muaj txiaj ntsig tsis tas txhais tau tias yog rau menyuam yaus. Ua ntej koj txwv tsis pub ua yeeb yam, saib nws ua ke: qhov no yuav muab sijhawm rau tus menyuam los piav qhia qhov tseeb uas nws nyiam txog nws, thiab rau koj li cas koj tsis pom zoo nrog. Kev tso cai yooj yim los ntawm kev thov tias qhov program tsis haum rau koj tsis muaj txiaj ntsig. Yog koj tawm tsam koj txoj haujlwm, tus menyuam yuav kawm piav nws tus kheej; yog li koj yuav pab nws tsim nws tus kheej kev txiav txim thiab lub peev xwm los tiv thaiv nws.
Yuav ua li cas nrog kev tshaj tawm?
Cov menyuam yaus nyiam saib kev tshaj tawm: lawv nyiam nws cov suab paj nruag, suab paj nruag, txav mus los. Los ntawm 3-4 xyoos, lawv tuaj yeem paub qhov yooj yim ntawm cov nkauj thiab cov cim khoom. Thiab tsuas yog los ntawm hnub nyoog 7-8 lawv tuaj yeem nkag siab cov haujlwm tshwj xeeb thiab cov txheej txheem ntawm kev cuam tshuam ntawm kev lag luam. Nws yog ib qho tseem ceeb uas cov niam txiv piav qhia rau lawv tus menyuam tias kev tshaj tawm yog dab tsi. Cov menyuam hnub nyoog 7 xyoos thiab txawm tias 5 xyoos tseem muaj peev xwm nkag siab tias ib yam tsis tau zoo dua los ntawm kev ua yeeb yaj kiab hauv TV, tab sis nws raug nqi ntau dua, vim tias tau siv nyiaj ntau los ntawm kev tshaj tawm thiab tam sim no cov neeg yuav khoom them rau nws. Yog li kev tshaj tawm yuav yog qhov laj thawj zoo los qhia tus menyuam thawj qhov kev paub txog kev lag luam hauv daim ntawv yooj yim thiab nkag siab.
Yuav ua li cas txog cov xov xwm txaus ntshai?
Cov ntawv xov xwm hauv TV yog ib txoj haujlwm rau cov neeg laus nyob rau hauv daim ntawv thiab hauv cov ntsiab lus. Qhov zoo tshaj, txog 7-8 xyoos, menyuam yaus zoo dua yog tsis pom cov ntaub ntawv xov xwm, tshwj xeeb tshaj yog thaum muaj xwm txheej txaus ntshai tshwm sim. Tab sis yog tias tus menyuam tseem pom daim ntawv tshaj tawm los ntawm qhov xwm txheej txaus ntshai thiab txhawj xeeb, sim ua kom nws muaj kev nyab xeeb: zaum ntawm nws ib sab, puag. Thaum tham txog qhov koj pom, piav qhia dab tsi tshwm sim ntawm lub vijtsam, tsom mus rau kev siv zog ua kom cawm tib neeg.
Leej twg yog tus saib thiab ntau npaum li cas
Cov tub thiab ntxhais hluas hnub nyoog 4-10 xyoos saib TV nruab nrab li 2.5 teev hauv ib hnub; 11-14 xyoos - 3 teev hauv ib hnub. Muaj hnub nyoog tshaj 15 xyoos - 4 teev nyob rau ib hnub (qhov no yog ib teev ntau dua li lawv cov phooj ywg saib xyoo 1999). Txij thaum txog hnub nyoog no, cov ntxhais siv sijhawm kwv yees li ib nrab teev saib TV ntau dua li cov tub.
Yuav ua li cas nrog kev hlub scenes, erotica thiab pw ua ke?
Cov yeeb yaj kiab erotic xav tau kev xav thiab kev loj hlob ntawm kev sib deev; qhov zoo tshaj, cov menyuam hnub nyoog qis dua 16 yuav tsum tsis txhob saib lawv. Yog tias, thaum saib cov yeeb yaj kiab npaj rau txhua pawg ntawm cov neeg saib, tus menyuam pib nug cov lus nug lossis txaj muag txog qee yam kev hlub, qhov no yog qhov laj thawj zoo los tham nrog nws txog kev sib deev.
Puas yog TV tsis cuam tshuam lawv kev txhim kho kab lis kev cai?
Tej zaum qhov txhaum loj ntawm TV yog qhov nws coj menyuam mus deb ntawm kev ua si, uas yog qhov muaj txiaj ntsig ntawm kev loj hlob. Cov menyuam yaus yuav tsum qhia lawv lub tswv yim xav hauv kev nqis tes ua, thiab TV caw lawv kom tsis txhob hnov qab lwm tus.
Yog li nws mob tom qab tag nrho? "Thaum cov duab muab rau tus menyuam tsis tiv thaiv nws los ntawm kev ua nws" menyuam txoj haujlwm, "tsis muaj ib yam tsis raug nrog lawv," tus kws paub txog kev paub lus Askiv Askiv Donald Winnicott tau hais. Dab tsi tseem ceeb dua tsis yog tus menyuam pom ntawm lub vijtsam, tabsis nws ua dab tsi nrog qhov nws pom. Cov haujlwm ntawm niam txiv yog pab nws siv cov ntaub ntawv uas nws tau txais rau nws kom zoo dua. Thiab, tej zaum, piav qhia tias TV, zoo li txhua yam kev tsim ntawm peb kab lis kev cai, nws muaj qhov tsis zoo …
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