Tus Tub Hluas Tsis Kawm Ntawv

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Tus tub hluas tsis kawm ntawv

Thiab nws tau ua phem rau txhua tus, tsis xav ua dab tsi, tsis xav ua dab tsi, zaum ntawm lub khoos phis tawj txhua hnub, dai nrog cov tuam txhab coj txawv txawv, chim siab txhua lub sijhawm, tau hloov pauv ntau, pib siv cawv thiab luam yeeb. (thiab tam sim ntawd muaj qee yam tsis zoo), hem kom tawm hauv tsev lossis ua qee yam nrog nws tus kheej, tsis xav txog nws lub neej yav tom ntej … Cov no yog "cov tsos mob" uas coj niam txiv ntawm cov menyuam txij hnub nyoog 12 txog 18 (20) xyoos rau peb, kws kho mob hlwb. Cia peb sim xav seb dab tsi yog qhov ua rau tag nrho cov "teeb meem" no thiab vim li cas pua pua phau ntawv, kab lus thiab kev tshawb fawb ntawm cov ncauj lus ntawm kev hluas tsis tau cawm tib neeg (thiab tseem ceeb tshaj yog niam txiv) los ntawm cov kev tsim txom no?

Yog lawm, Kuv tsis tau tos kom hu lub sijhawm thaum tus menyuam nkag mus rau lub hnub nyoog hloov pauv "tsim txom", vim hais tias ntau lo lus tsis piav qhia qhov xwm txheej uas tab tom txhim kho hauv tsev uas muaj tus hluas. Hauv qhov no, los ntawm txoj kev, twb muaj qee qhov kev pab rau niam txiv nyeem: "Tsis yog nrog peb xwb, yog li, tej zaum tsis yog txhua yam tsis zoo rau kuv thiab kuv tus menyuam? "Yog li nws yog, txawv me ntsis, tab sis nws nyuaj rau txhua tus neeg nyob rau lub sijhawm no! Thiab, los ntawm txoj kev, rau tus tub hluas nws tus kheej, ib yam nkaus, thiab tej zaum tseem nyuaj dua rau peb, cov neeg laus.

Vim li cas?

Hormonal surge

Nov yog lub hauv paus los ntawm txhua qhov "kev txawv txav" ntawm lub hnub nyoog no loj hlob. Nws yog ib qho tseem ceeb heev uas yuav tsum nco ntsoov tias nyob rau lub sijhawm no (12-18 xyoo), twb tsis nco qab cov menyuam yaus mob ntev feem ntau pib thab plaub, cov kab mob pw tsaug zog tau hnyav zuj zus, cov neeg tshiab tshwm sim. Tag nrho cov no cuam tshuam nrog kev tiv thaiv tsis muaj zog thaum lub sijhawm pub dawb, kev loj hlob sai, cov tshuaj hormones thiab kev hloov pauv hauv lub cev. Tus menyuam yog lub cev tsis muaj zog txaus nyob rau lub sijhawm no. Hauv tib qhov kev sib txuas, thiab kev xav hloov pauv sai. Nws nws tus kheej yuav zoo siab los ua kom muaj kev thaj yeeb thiab muaj txiaj ntsig, tab sis cov tshuaj hormones "dhia" thiab qhov kev hloov pauv (qhov no tseem tshwm sim nrog PMS thiab thawj peb lub hlis ntawm cev xeeb tub).

Qhov xav tau kev sib cais (cais)

Tib neeg tus menyuam tseem vam khom niam niam ntev dua li lwm tus tsiaj. Tab sis nws ib yam yuav tsum muaj ib hnub dhau los ua neeg ywj pheej thiab, muab lub sijhawm ntawm kev quav tshuaj, tso nws yuav dhau los ua txoj haujlwm nyuaj (ob leeg rau nws thiab rau niam). Qhov no yog lub ntsiab lus puas siab ntsws ntawm kev hluas thiab tib lub sijhawm yog ib qho laj thawj rau peb "kev ntxhov siab". Txhawm rau cais los ntawm leej niam, tus menyuam yuav tsum "txo qis" nws sab hauv. Puas yog nws tuaj yeem tsis lees txais kev sib tw, zoo nkauj, zoo? Tsis tau. Yog li cov menyuam ntxim hlub pib ua rau niam (thiab txiv nyob rau tib lub sijhawm, nrog rau cov kws qhia ntawv) kom dhau los ua kev foom tsis zoo, kho tsis tu ncua, nyob mus ib txhis "txheeb ze" thiab "khau". Thiab txoj hauv kev yooj yim tshaj plaws los ua qhov no yog los ntawm: kev kawm tsis zoo, haus dej haus cawv thiab so, saib cov npe hauv thawj kab lus. Tab sis lub hom phiaj tau ua tiav: leej niam tau dhau los ua qhov txaus ntshai thiab tam sim no koj tuaj yeem mob siab tso nws txoj kev saib xyuas rau koj tus kheej (Tseem ceeb: tsis txhob hnov qab tias txhua yam no tshwm sim hauv SUBCONSCIOUSNESS, tus menyuam tsis paub qhov laj thawj rau nws tus cwj pwm, thiab tseem ceeb tshaj, nws yuav tsum tsis txhob, niam txiv yuav tsum nkag siab lawv).

Los ntawm no, los ntawm txoj kev, thiab kev ua phem … Tus tub hluas tau sib nrauj los ntawm kev xav ncov qaumteb qabteb: ntawm ib sab, nws xav nyob twj ywm hauv kev saib xyuas thiab tiv thaiv ntawm nws niam, ntawm qhov tod tes, nws tau npaj cais. Thiab nws npau taws rau nws niam tias nws hu nws ntau heev, tab sis nws yuav tsum muaj kev ywj pheej, thiab nrog nws tus kheej, tias nws tsis tuaj yeem paub qhov nws xav tau. Nyob rau tib lub sijhawm, kev ua phem tuaj yeem hais tawm sab nrauv - tus tub hluas tsis mloog lus, qw, hais lus sib cav, sib ntaus, lossis tej zaum sab hauv, thiab qhov thib ob, muaj kev phom sij txaus ntshai xav thiab ua.

Nrhiav koj tus kheej

Qhov no yog qhov xav tau tseem ceeb rau cov tub ntxhais hluas. Thaum peb xav tias tus menyuam tsis xav tau dab tsi, tsis xav ua dab tsi, peb tsis yog qhov tseeb. Nws xav tau thiab nws kawm - nws kawm nkag siab nws tus kheej, kom paub nws tus kheej. Yav dhau los, nws tau qhia cov lus qhia vim tias nws xav ua kom zoo rau nws niam, nws ntseeg nws cov lus tias nws yog qhov tseem ceeb thiab ntxim nyiam, tab sis tam sim no lub sijhawm tau los rau nws los txiav txim seb qhov twg yog qhov tseem ceeb, dab tsi yog qhov txaus siab rau nws! Nyob rau tib lub sijhawm, peb nco qab qhov kev loj hlob sai thiab kev sib deev: kev xav ntawm kev sib deev thiab kev npau suav yog qhov tsis tuaj yeem yug (thaum xub thawj, kuj tsis nco qab thiab tsis nkag siab rau nws), uas lub siab xav sim tswj thiab txwv, thiab los ntawm kev txwv lawv, lwm yam kev xav yog qhov tsis muaj kev cuam tshuam txwv tsis pub, uas yog: kawm, taug kev ntawm ntu, kawm qee yam tshiab. Yog li nws "stick" hauv computer, TV lossis phau ntawv - nws yog qhov tseem ceeb rau nws kom ncua! Nws lub siab yog li "tau txais kev cawmdim" los ntawm kev hnyav dhau. Tsev kawm ntawv qhov ua tau zoo yog qhov tshwm sim.

Qhov tseem ceeb ntawm kev koom nrog ib pawg

Cov theem tom ntej hauv txheej txheem kev sib cais ntawm niam txiv yog kev hloov pauv ntawm txoj cai. Qhov no yog qhov tsis yooj yim sua, tab sis nws tseem ua rau cov niam txiv ntshai thiab chim siab. Txawm li cas los xij, tsis ntev los no, tus menyuam zoo siab nrog nws niam tham, mloog nws, tham txog qee qhov kev nyuaj thiab tam sim ntawd pib tsis kam pab, ua tsis pub lwm tus paub, txo nws cov lus, kaw hauv nws chav, thiab tseem tsis zoo - txhua yam qhov no nyuaj heev rau lees thiab nkag siab … Tab sis nws yog qhov tsim nyog. Koj tus menyuam yuav tsis nyob nrog koj tag nrho nws lub neej, nws yog qhov tseem ceeb rau nws kom nrhiav nws qhov chaw ntawm nws cov phooj ywg. Cov tub ntxhais hluas ib txwm koom ua ke hauv pab pawg, tib txoj hauv kev uas lawv tuaj yeem kawm sib cuam tshuam nrog zej zog uas lawv nyob, yog li lawv nkag siab lawv tus kheej zoo dua, ntawm lawv tus kheej, yog li nws yooj yim dua rau lawv tso tseg kev saib xyuas thiab tswj hwm lawv niam lawv txiv thiab ua ywj siab Lawv tseem tsis tau paub tias lawv yog leej twg thiab lawv yuav tsum yog leej twg, yog li lawv muaj kev nyab xeeb hauv pab pawg.

Cov lus nug "vim li cas" zoo li tau raug tshem tawm me ntsis, tab sis tam sim no qhov tseem ceeb yog: Yuav ua li cas nrog nws? Dab tsi txog peb, niam txiv?

Koj yuav tsum tau nqis tes mus rau sab kom nyob ntsiag to, thaum koj nyob tob hauv qhov xwm txheej, koj tsis tuaj yeem ntsuas nws txaus. Thiab tom qab ntawd peb nco qab cov kab lus dhau los. Hormonal hloov. Ua tib zoo saib xyuas kev noj qab haus huv ntawm tus tub hluas, koj yuav tsum kho nws zoo li tus neeg nyob ze ntawm kev noj qab haus huv thiab kev mob nkeeg, thiab yuav muaj kev ntxhov siab txaus, ua haujlwm dhau los lossis muaj kev sib cav sib ceg kom nws mob (thiab kuv tham txog ob lub cev thiab mob hlwb!). Kho nws txoj kev xav nyob ntsiag to thiab ib qho twg nrog kev lom zem. Ntseeg kuv - nws tus kheej xav tias tsis zoo. Tsis txhob sim ua pov thawj rau nws tias koj nkag siab nws, nws yuav tsis ntseeg (nws yog qhov tseem ceeb rau nws uas koj tsis nkag siab nws, vim nws xav tau cais, sib txawv), tab sis hais tias koj pom tias nws nyuaj npaum li cas rau nws thiab koj txhawj xeeb thaum nws tu siab ces quaj, tom qab ntawd quaj, tom qab ntawd luag.

Sib cais. "Tsis lees paub" yog lo lus tseem ceeb qhia txog tus yam ntxwv ntawm tus hluas thiab nws tsis tuaj yeem ua dab tsi txog nws, qhov no yog kev hloov pauv. Nkag siab, sim muab nws txoj kev ywj pheej uas xav tau, dhau los ua kom yoog raws li ua tau, vim tias txoj cai nruj dua, nws yuav ua phem ntau dua. Nkag siab thiab lees paub tias koj lub zog tsawg dua thiab tsawg dua, nws tseem yuav ua raws li nws xav tau, cov lus nug nkaus xwb yog koj yuav paub txog nws lossis tsis yog, yuav muaj teeb meem niaj hnub nyob hauv tsev lossis koj yuav sim ua kom pom zoo.

Nws yog ib qho tseem ceeb, txawm li cas los xij, los qhia thaj tsam ntawm qhov uas tau tso cai: "Koj tuaj yeem npau taws, koj tuaj yeem qee zaum qw thiab cog lus, tab sis koj tsis tuaj yeem thuam koj niam koj txiv." Qhov pom tseeb thiab nkag tau yooj yim dua cov ciam teb no, muaj feem ntau yuav yog cov tub ntxhais hluas yuav ua raws li lawv. Yog tias qhov kev txwv tsis yooj yim ua raws, tom qab ntawd tsis muaj ib qho tseem ceeb hauv kev tawm tsam lawv: "Yog tias koj nyob lig - thov hu rau kuv yog li kuv tsis txhob txhawj xeeb" yog qhov yooj yim ua, thiab "tsuas yog sim tuaj tom qab kaum" - koj xav tsoo nws tam sim, koj puas nkag siab? Koj yuav tsum tam sim no "tswj hwm", tsim ib hom kev xav tsis zoo ntawm kev tswj hwm, vim tias qhov tseeb koj yuav tuaj yeem tswj qhov xwm txheej tsawg dua txhua xyoo.

TSEEM CEEB! Ua tib zoo mloog rau "kev tawm tsam ntsiag to." Yog tias koj tus tub ntxhais hluas nyob ntsiag to, muaj qhov ua rau muaj kev nyuaj siab ntau, thiab nws txaus ntshai nrog kev xav tua tus kheej thiab ua. Suab nrov nrov zoo dua li tawm mus ntsiag to hauv yeeb tshuaj lossis tua tus kheej. Yog tias koj nkag siab tias koj tus menyuam tab tom tu siab thiab ntsiag to - khiav mus rau kws kho mob hlwb. Ua ntej nws lig dhau lawm.

Nrhiav koj tus kheej. Kev poob qis hauv kev kawm tau zoo, hmoov tsis, yog tus qauv thaum hluas. Zoo, tsis muaj txaus ntawm lawv rau txhua yam: kom muaj kev hloov pauv lub cev hnyav (thiab nrog lawv feem ntau txaj muag rau koj lub cev hloov pauv), thiab txwv tsis pub muaj kev sib deev, thiab tawm tsam kom cais, thiab sim nkag siab koj tus kheej, thiab nkag siab qhov kev poob qis tam sim ntawd ntawm lub ntiaj teb loj heev, thiab ua pov thawj nws tus kheej … Txhua yam uas ib tus neeg hlub tuaj yeem ua tau yog kom nyob ze thiab nyob ruaj khov (yog, qhov no, los ntawm txoj kev, txhais tau tias tsis txhob cog lus thiab tsis txhob npau taws!). Hom kev kawm twg muaj? Nov yog lo lus nug "yuav tsum lossis tsis yog" yog txiav txim siab, thawj thawj lo lus nug ntawm lub neej thiab kev tuag tau paub tiag tiag, tas li cuam tshuam rau hauv kev xav nyuaj siab … Kev kawm dhau los tsis tseem ceeb hauv lub dab dej ntawm "tiag tiag" lub neej uas tub hluas tsuas tsis muaj sijhawm ua raws nws. Thiab kuv tseem yuav ceeb toom koj txog qhov tseeb: tam sim no nyob hauv peb lub tebchaws tus menyuam tuaj yeem pom qhov xwm txheej: "Ntawm no nws tau kawm rau tsib thiab yog li ntawd nws muaj tsob ntoo, Ferrari thiab nyiaj hli ntawm ib nrab lab", eh? Raws nraim - tsis pom qhov twg! Thiab tom qab ntawd qhov xwm txheej loj tshaj plaws ntawm cov niam txiv niaj hnub no yog tias peb tsis tuaj yeem piav qhia rau menyuam yog vim li cas lawv thiaj xav kawm kom zoo, Vim li cas thiaj mus kawm ntawv qib siab, LEEJ TWG xav tau daim ntawv pov thawj? Yog, yog, peb ntse, peb pom cov lus teb, qee leej ntawm peb txawm ntseeg lawv … Tab sis tsis yog lawv, tsis yog hluas. Yog li nws hloov tawm - kawm lawv yog qhov nyuaj vim tias muaj hnub nyoog cuam tshuam nrog "kev mob siab rau", thiab tom qab ntawd tsis muaj kev txhawb siab. Tam sim no mus thiab kawm. Xav pom cov lus teb "Yuav ua li cas thiaj ua rau nws kawm tau"? Kuv tsis paub. Nws zoo li kuv tias nws yog qhov tseem ceeb tshaj plaws kom tsis txhob kov koj tus menyuam thaum lub hnub nyoog no, tom qab ntawd nws yuav tsis ntxeev siab ntau npaum li nws yuav tsum kawm ntawv tiav, thiab yog nws "4-5" dhau los nyob rau qib 8-10 "3", tej zaum tsuas yog tam sim no tso cai rau nws mus rau qib C. Nws suab txaus ntshai, Kuv paub, tab sis kuv tsis tau pom dua kev tswj nruj ua rau cov tub ntxhais kawm zoo siab zoo tawm ntawm tus menyuam, tab sis kuv tau ntsib kev tua tus kheej ntawm cov tub ntxhais kawm zoo. Yog tias nws muaj deuces thiab muaj lus nug txog kev ntiab tawm, ces, tau kawg, nws yuav tsum txiav txim siab hauv txhua kis hauv ntau txoj kev. Koj tuaj yeem ntiav tus kws qhia ntawv uas yuav pab yog tias cov lus nug hauv qhov nyuaj ntawm kev paub cov ntaub ntawv, tab sis feem ntau qhov teeb meem tob dua thiab muaj kev xav ntau dua li kev qhuab qhia. Tom qab ntawd nws yog qhov tseem ceeb los txiav txim qhov tseeb uas tsis pub tus tub ntxhais hluas kawm, yam nws tab tom sim qhia rau cov niam txiv li no, thiab nws yuav muaj txiaj ntsig zoo dua los tig mus rau kws kho mob hlwb. Tham txog kev kawm thiab "yav tom ntej" tsis muaj txiaj ntsig, nws yog qhov tsim nyog yuav tau tham txog dab tsi tshwm sim rau nws, yam nws txhawj xeeb thiab txhawj xeeb, nws nyiam dab tsi, nws chim siab lossis npau taws (tab sis nws tsis tuaj yeem nthuav tawm nws, yog li nws tawm tsam tsawg kawg) hauv nws txoj kev kawm).

Koom nrog pab pawg. Yog tias tus menyuam muaj lub siab ntau dua lossis tsawg dua, yog tias tsis muaj kev txom nyem sab hauv, yog tias huab cua hauv tsev txaus siab, tom qab ntawd nws yuav tsis mus rau lub tuam txhab "phem", yuav tsis koom nrog pawg txhoj puab heev lossis nyob ntsiag to cov neeg quav yeeb quav tshuaj. Yog tias tus tub ntxhais hluas xaiv cov tuam txhab zoo li no, kuv rov pom zoo kom mus ntsib kws kho mob hlwb. Tsis muaj kev txwv yuav txwv nws. Kev puas siab puas ntsws yog qhov nyuaj tshaj plaws rau ib tus neeg, nws yooj yim dua rau nws los ntawm kev mob lub cev, poob ntawm tus neeg hlub, kev hem thawj ntawm kev tuag - ntau dua li kev txom nyem sab hauv, yog li lawv pom "txaus ntshai" sab nraum kom poob dej dab tsi sab hauv. Kev tiv thaiv kev ua raws li cov tub ntxhais hluas hloov pauv yog txoj haujlwm hloov pauv tau yooj yim, kev lees paub thiab kev nyab xeeb nyob hauv tsev neeg.

Nws tau tshwm sim uas nyob ntawm no kuv hais ntau zaus dua li lwm cov kab lus: "Hu rau tus kws kho mob hlwb" thiab qhov no tsis yog xwm txheej, thiab tsis tshaj tawm. Qhov tseeb yog txhua yam uas tau sau tseg hauv tus menyuam lub siab lub ntsws thaum tseem hluas "tawg mus" thaum pub dawb (nws nrov rau ib tus neeg, nyob ntsiag to rau ib tus neeg, Kuv yuav sau qhov saum toj no, tab sis nws hla mus rau txhua tus!). Yog tias muaj kev sib nrauj, thiab tus menyuam "tsis tau pom dua", yog tias muaj tus neeg tseem ceeb tuag, thiab tus menyuam tsis raug hais lossis nws "yooj yim muaj txoj sia nyob thiab tsis quaj," yog tus menyuam nws tus kheej tau ua haujlwm thiab tom qab hais tias nws hloov me ntsis, tus menyuam yuav tsum tau sab laug yam tsis muaj leej niam mus txog peb xyoos rau ntau dua 3 hmo - tag nrho cov xwm txheej uas raug mob no tawm ntawm cov cim, nti ntawm tus menyuam lub siab, thiab yog tias thaum muaj hnub nyoog nws lub cev sab hauv tau txaus los tiv thaiv kev tawg, tom qab ntawd nyob rau lub sijhawm hloov pauv, peb sau cov txiv hmab txiv ntoo ntawm kev raug mob qub nyob rau hauv daim ntawv ntawm kev tawm tsam, tsis kam lees, ua tsis ncaj lossis tsis coj tus cwj pwm. Yog li ntawd, tam sim no koj, uas yog niam txiv, tau muab lub sijhawm kawg los kho qee yam, tom qab ntawd tus neeg ntawd yuav loj tuaj thiab yuav nyob nrog txhua yam no, ua ib tsev neeg, ua haujlwm, thiab rub tag nrho lub nra no. Qhov zoo tshaj plaws uas koj tuaj yeem ua rau koj tus tub ntxhais hluas yog pab nkag siab koj tus kheej thiab txoj hauv kev yooj yim tshaj plaws los ua qhov no yog hauv kev qhia pab pawg kev puas siab ntsws lossis hauv kev sab laj tus kheej.

Epilogue.

Nws tau dhau los ua kab lus ntev, tab sis koj tuaj yeem tham txog cov hluas ib txhis. Qhov no yog lub ntiaj teb tag nrho, qhov no yog qhov tob, qhov no yog qhov chaw. Thaum koj raus koj tus kheej hauv cov ncauj lus no, thaum koj sim nkag siab dab tsi yog NTUJ, koj poob rau qhov tsis meej pem thiab muaj ntau haiv neeg ntawm qhov tshwm sim hauv lawv lub ntiaj teb, thiab qhov no zoo siab heev! Nws yog lub sijhawm no uas "cov neeg laus tau yug los."

Kuv xav kom kuv niam kuv txiv nyob twj ywm thiab ua siab ntev. Ntau tshaj li qhov koj xav tau tam sim no. Raws li cov kws paub txog kev puas siab puas ntsws hais tias: “Kuv yuav hais dab tsi rau cov niam txiv ntawm cov tub hluas? - "Koj yuav tsum muaj sia nyob!" Ciaj sia ntawm kev puas siab puas ntsws, muaj sia nyob ntawm kev xav, cawm koj tus kheej. Tsis txhob nyob ib leeg thaum lub sijhawm no, nrhiav qee yam kev txhawb nqa hauv daim ntawv ntawm cov phooj ywg, uas twb tau loj hlob los ntawm menyuam yaus, hauv koj niam koj txiv, hauv daim ntawv ntawm kws kho mob hlwb. Koj tus tub hluas yuav ua rau koj sab hauv "txhawb nqa", thiab koj yuav tsum tuav rawv. Nws yog ib qho tseem ceeb kom nco ntsoov tias tam sim no ntau dua li nws xav tau koj kev ruaj ntseg, koj yuav tsum yog cov kob uas muaj lub teeb pom kev zoo, uas tus tub ntxhais hluas, nkees nkees nkees nkees nkees nkees nkees ntawm cua daj cua dub, qee zaum tuaj yeem ntsaws, lossis nws tsuas yog xav paub (!) cov kob no muaj nyob.