Sab Hauv Tus Kheej - Qhov No Yog Dab Tsi Thiab Yuav Ua Li Cas Nrog Nws?

2024 Tus sau: Harry Day | [email protected]. Kawg hloov kho: 2023-12-17 15:46

Kev thab plaub tsis zoo, muaj peev xwm noj tau, ntsias ntsias ntsaum) lossis koj yuav hu koj li cas rau sab hauv? Yog lawm, tus phooj ywg no tuaj yeem ua rau koj lub neej puas tsuaj. Yuav ua li cas? Cia peb xam nws tawm

Cov kws paub txog kev puas siab ntsws hu nws hauv txoj kev ntse) - tus kheej zoo tshaj, tus tswj hwm niam txiv lossis kev xav tsis zoo ntawm tus kheej, Nagoski cov viv ncaus hauv lawv phau ntawv "Burnout" - kev npau taws sab hauv. Txhua yam no yog hais txog ib yam - qhov no yog ib feem ntawm tib neeg lub siab, uas hauv qee txoj hauv kev daws teeb meem ntawm kev tswj hwm thiab kev tshuaj xyuas, thiab ib feem ntawm tus cwj pwm uas tau tsim hauv menyuam yaus (uas tsis tau tsim tsuas yog)) hauv qab no kev cuam tshuam ntawm cov neeg laus tseem ceeb. Nws kuj tuaj yeem tau txais txoj hauv kev. Ntau npaum li ntawd cov suab lus tseem ceeb hauv koj lub taub hau dhau los ua keeb kwm yav dhau los, koj tsis paub qhov txawv ntawm lawv tiag tiag thiab nyob, xav tsis thoob ntawm tus kheej, tsis muaj siab xav, ntshai ua, tsis meej pem thiab ntxhov siab. Tus nqi ntau ntawm lub zog tau koom ua ke rau txhua qhov no, tsuas yog xav txog.

Tab sis muaj xov zoo! Tus neeg thuam yog ib feem ntawm koj. Qhov no txhais tau tias nws nyob hauv thaj tsam ntawm koj qhov kev cuam tshuam.

Dab tsi tseem ceeb kom paub:

✔ Tus neeg thuam tsis siv sijhawm. Nws tsis paub qhov txawv ntawm 20 xyoo dhau los, tam sim no yog dab tsi

✔ Tsis suav nrog qhov hloov pauv ntawm qhov tseeb - uas koj twb loj tuaj lawm, piv txwv li, thiab xwm txheej ntawm koj lub neej tau hloov pauv)

✔ Thiab, tsuas yog ntseeg kuv, nws tsuas yog xav tau qhov zoo tshaj rau koj. Yog li ntawd, nws yog ib qho tseem ceeb heev kom piav qhia nws cov lus, lub hom phiaj.

Muaj 2 lub tswv yim rau kev cuam tshuam nrog Tus Kws Tshaj Lij:

🔸 Sib ntaus.

Hmm … tej zaum, hauv qee kis nws yog qhov tsim nyog - thaum qhov kev thuam tsis muaj zog heev thiab muaj cov haujlwm tshwj xeeb, koj tuaj yeem tawv nws "zoo kaw!" Qhov no muab kev nkag tau rau lub zog, tab sis kuj ua rau muaj kev nruj sab hauv.

Tab sis muaj lwm txoj kev xaiv:

🔸 Ua rau nws ua phooj ywg.

Txog qhov no, Kev Ntsuam Xyuas yuav tsum raug tshuaj xyuas.

Nws ua haujlwm li cas?

Hen Thaum twg nws tshwm?

- Dab tsi hais?

Do Koj ua li cas paub nws lub ntsej muag thiab lus?

Would Koj yuav hu nws li cas?

Thaum peb npe qee yam, peb tuaj yeem cais los ntawm nws, nce qhov nrug. Thiab qhov no yog ib qho tseem ceeb heev.

Nws tseem yog ib qho tseem ceeb kom nkag siab tiag tiag dab tsi yog lub hom phiaj zoo, dab tsi yog qhov xav tau tom qab Critic. Nws yog ib qho tseem ceeb heev los hais nws "monologue". Tsis txhob tsav koj mus rau qhov tob dua, uas yog mloog qhov nws xav qhia koj. Koj tuaj yeem sau nws cov lus, lossis kos rau hauv daim ntawv ntawm phau ntawv dab neeg, piv txwv li, lossis koj yuav xav seev cev nws. Vim tias ntawm no nws yog ib qho tseem ceeb heev uas txhua yam no tau txuas nrog tsis yog nrog kev xav, tab sis muaj kev paub dhau los ntawm cov lus no. Koj xav teb nws li cas?

Koj kuj tseem yuav xav txog qhov no: cov lus qhuas dab tsi, kev txhawb nqa koj nyiam? Intonation yog dab tsi? Los yog tej zaum cov no yog qee yam kev qhia ntawm lub cev: saib, luag, luag. Xav txog daim ntawv uas nws yuav yooj yim rau koj lees txais. Sau koj qhov kev xav.

Koj qhov kev thuam sab hauv yog cov kua zaub ntawm cov suab lus tseem ceeb los ntawm cov neeg laus, thiab thaum koj tseem me koj tsis tuaj yeem nres nws. Tab sis tam sim no koj tuaj yeem ua tau.

Ua haujlwm nrog tus kws saib xyuas sab hauv tsis yooj yim ntawm koj tus kheej, yog li qhov no yog qhov kev thov zoo rau kev sib tham. Tuaj lawm. Txhua yam ua tau. Koj tsis tuaj yeem rov ua koj lub neej dua.