Kev Ua Phem Rau Menyuam Yaus. Yuav Ua Li Cas Yog Tias Koj Tus Menyuam Raug Thab Plaub Los Ntawm Cov Phooj Ywg

2024 Tus sau: Harry Day | [email protected]. Kawg hloov kho: 2023-12-17 15:46

Svetlana, uas cov menyuam yaus muaj feem ntau dua li lwm tus los ua cov khoom ntawm kev thab plaub thiab kev thuam ntawm lawv cov phooj ywg?

- Txhua tus menyuam tuaj yeem raug luag thuam hauv tsev kawm ntawv. Tab sis tsis yog txhua tus dhau los ua lub hom phiaj ntawm kev thab plaub thiab thab plaub. Qhov xwm txheej zoo li no yog lub teeb liab los xav txog tus menyuam txoj kev sib raug zoo nrog nws tus kheej.

Lub ntsiab lus ntawm kev ua txhaum ib puag ncig yog qhov hauv paus hauv tsev neeg, thaum tus menyuam yuav raug hais tias nws tsis muaj cai rau nws tus kheej lub tswv yim, thaum nws qhov kev ua raug thuam hnyav. Lawv raug thawb ib puag ncig txhua lub sijhawm, rub tawm thiab yog li ua rau muaj kev tsis paub tseeb hauv lawv tus kheej lub meej mom thiab lub zog, tus menyuam tau cev xeeb tub los ntawm kev tiv thaiv nws tus kheej. Yog li ntawd, nws yuav zoo li nyob hauv zej zog nws yuav tau ntsib ib yam.

Thiab lwm qhov kev ua txhaum loj heev ntawm cov ciam teb yog menyuam yaus nrog kev xav tau ntau tshaj ntawm lub ntiaj teb sab nraud, uas ntseeg tias txhua tus tshuav lawv txhua yam; cov no yog cov "hnub qub" uas tau txais txhua yam ib zaug.

- Kuv ib txwm xav tias thaum ib tus neeg xav tias txhua tus neeg tshuav nws, nws qhov ua ntej yuav tsis dhau los ua qhov kev tsim txom.

- Yog tias nws muaj qee yam los muab rau zej zog, ntxiv rau nws qhov kev thov kom txhua tus hlub nws yooj yim vim nws yog, yog lawm, koj hais yog lawm. Tab sis yog tias nws hais yooj yim: "Koj tshuav kuv txhua yam," ces muaj qhov tshwm sim siab heev uas pab neeg yuav tsis lees txais nws. Hauv tsev neeg, tus menyuam zoo li no tau muab tso rau ntawm tus ncej, nws tau pe hawm. Nws los rau hauv pab pawg thiab cia siab ib yam los ntawm nws cov phooj ywg, tab sis ntsib qhov tseeb sib txawv. Thiab nws mob heev rau nws. Hauv lwm lo lus, cov menyuam yaus uas raug thab plaub feem ntau yog tus yam ntxwv ntawm kev xav thiab kev tsis paub nyob hauv lub cev, tsis muaj zog, tsis ua raws li cov cai thiab tsis tau sau cov cai.

- Dab tsi yuav tsum yog tus niam txiv tus yam ntxwv kom tus menyuam thiaj li tsis tuaj yeem tsim tus neeg raug tsim txom rau cov phooj ywg?

Thaum xub thawj, tus menyuam yuav tsum tau lees paub los ntawm cov laus raws li tus neeg, thiab tsis yog kev txuas ntxiv ntawm nws tus kheej. Yog, koj tau yug los rau tus neeg no, tab sis tib lub sijhawm nws tsis yog koj thiab muaj cai rau nws txoj kev xav ntawm lub neej, tej zaum txawv ntawm koj li. Hwm koj tus menyuam.

Thaum tus menyuam los rau hauv ntiaj teb no, nws tsis paub dab tsi. Tus neeg laus txoj haujlwm yog piav qhia txhua yam ua haujlwm li cas. Txawm nrog menyuam yaus, koj yuav tsum tau tham nrog hwm kom muaj kev sib cuag, thiab yav tom ntej nws tsis ntshai qhia nws txoj kev xav, kev xav thiab teeb meem nrog koj. Thawj qhov kev tsis sib haum xeeb tuaj yeem tshwm sim txawm tias nyob hauv qib pib. Thiab lawv tau zoo vim tias lawv tsis muaj kev phom sij zoo li hauv tsev kawm ntawv. Siv lawv tus yam ntxwv, tus menyuam tuaj yeem kawm paub daws qhov xwm txheej nrog kev pab los ntawm cov neeg laus. Yog li ntawd, tsis tas yuav sim tiv thaiv menyuam yaus los ntawm cov dab neeg zoo li no.

- Nrog cov neeg raug tsim txom - nkag siab. Tom qab ntawd, vim li cas ntawm kev saib xyuas zoo li cov neeg ua txhaum tshwm sim?

- Qhov dag yog tias tus neeg raug tsim txom thiab tus tua yog ob sab ntawm tib npib. Thiab yog tias tus menyuam nyob rau lwm qhov, tsis nyob hauv tsev kawm ntawv, tab sis hauv tsev, piv txwv li, yog tus neeg raug tsim txom, yog li txhawm rau txhawm rau txhawm rau qhov tseeb no, nws yuav dhau los ua tus tua nyob hauv nws chav kawm. Cov neeg ua txhaum feem ntau yog menyuam yaus los ntawm tsev neeg tsis muaj kev vam meej uas loj hlob ntawm lawv tus kheej. Lawv sim nrhiav lawv tus kheej hauv ntiaj teb no los ntawm kev ua phem. Nov yog hom kev tawm tsam rau qhov chaw nyob hauv lub hnub. Thiab, hmoov tsis zoo, feem ntau cov menyuam no tau npaj mus rau qhov ntev kom tau txais kev lees paub.

Qhov tseeb, qhov no kuj yog quaj thov kev pab: "Cov neeg, koj tsis tuaj yeem pom kuv, yog li kuv yuav tsum paub tseeb tias thaum kawg koj nkag siab tias kuv txias npaum li cas." Cov neeg ua phem yog cov raug tsim txom tib yam, vim tias feem ntau tsis muaj leej twg nrhiav kev nkag siab tias vim li cas lawv thiaj ua dab phem thiab ua nruj ua tsiv, uas thawb lawv kom ua li ntawd. Lawv tau hais tias: "Koj tsis zoo, koj phem, koj yuav tsum tsis txhob ua qhov no." Thiab qhov tseeb yog tus menyuam nws tus kheej tsis zoo heev uas nws xav coj nws tawm "phem" rau lwm tus.

- Ua raws qhov kev xav no, yog tias ib tus tub ntxhais kawm ntaus lwm tus, ces koj tseem yuav tsum thov txim rau nws?

- Tsis yog, kev khuv leej tsis pab ntawm no hlo li, tab sis nws mob heev, vim tias tom qab ntawd cov menyuam yaus poob rau hauv lub xeev uas tsis muaj lub luag haujlwm ntau dua. Qhov no tsis yog lub ntsiab lus ntawm no. Koj yuav tsum tham nrog menyuam yaus, mloog, nkag siab lawv. Nws yog ib qho tseem ceeb kom coj cov xwm txheej no los tham rau pej xeem. Hu txhua yam uas tshwm sim los ntawm nws lub npe kom raug. Kev thab plaub yog kev thab plaub thiab nws tsis tuaj yeem hu ua lwm yam. Peb tsis tuaj yeem nyob ntsiag to txog qhov no! Yog tias cov neeg laus nyob ntsiag to, ces cov menyuam yuav tsis tso tseg thiab pib nkag tob rau hauv qhov kev tsis sib haum xeeb no.

Nws yuav zoo yog tias tus xibfwb pib tham txog qhov no: "Cov neeg, nws zoo li kuv tias qee qhov kev tsis ncaj ncees tau tshwm sim hauv chav kawm uas cuam tshuam nrog koj tus phooj ywg hauv chav kawm I. I. Piav rau kuv, thov, yog dab tsi? Dab tsi tiag tiag nws tsis haum koj? " Qhov tseem ceeb yog ua kom koj tus ntiv tes nyob ntawm lub plawv dhia tas li thiab tsis nco lub sijhawm thaum nws yuav lig dhau lawm. Yog, kuv tau hais los saum toj no tias tsev neeg yog qhov tseem ceeb rau tus menyuam, tab sis thaum nws nyob tom tsev kawm ntawv (txog li 6 teev hauv ib hnub), tom qab ntawd tsis muaj lub luag haujlwm tsawg dua nrog tus kws qhia ntawv. Tus kws qhia ntawv hauv chav kawm yuav tsum yog niam mloog zoo nrog nws cov tub ntxhais kawm. Txhua tus, tsis suav nrog, txawm tias tus tub ntxhais kawm no tsis nyiam nws vim li cas.

- Thiab niam txiv yuav tsum coj li cas thaum lawv tus menyuam yws txog kev thab plaub tom tsev kawm ntawv?

Raws li txoj cai, yog tus menyuam muaj kev sib raug zoo nrog nws niam nws txiv, thiab nws pib qhia rau lawv tias nws kev sib raug zoo nrog cov phooj ywg tsis zoo, koj tuaj yeem hnov ntau cov kab lus hauv qab no los ntawm cov neeg laus: "Muab nws taub hau, tom qab ntawd nws yuav tshem tawm. " Tab sis qhov tseeb, qhov no yog ib qho ntawm qhov tsis sib xws uas ua rau muaj kev txuas ntxiv ntawm kev tsis sib haum xeeb. Muaj ib qho ntxiv: "Tsis txhob mloog". Hmoov tsis zoo, ob qho no yog txoj hauv kev mus rau qhov twg. Tsis mloog tus neeg ua phem yuav ua rau nws ntau dua. Nws yuav tsis tshem tawm ntawm koj tus menyuam thiab, feem ntau yuav, yuav ua rau lub zog nce ntxiv kom txog thaum nws tawg.

- Vim li cas koj thiaj tsis tuaj yeem qhia tus menyuam: "Hloov pauv yog tias koj ua txhaum"?

- Los ntawm kev muab tswv yim zoo li no, koj qhia tias koj tsis muaj kev cia siab. Tsis muaj ib yam dab tsi uas koj tuaj yeem hais qhia lwm yam tshaj li tus cwj pwm txhoj puab heev uas lwm tus menyuam tau nthuav tawm. Qhov no yuav tsis daws qhov teeb meem.

Nws yog ib qho tseem ceeb heev kom nkag siab tias koj tus tub lossis tus ntxhais tuaj thiab qhia nws qhov kev xav ntawm cov xwm txheej uas tau tshwm sim. Yog, tus menyuam tsis txaus siab, yog, nws mob, tab sis ntawm no nws yog qhov tsim nyog los txiav txim siab nws. Nug lo lus nug: "Nws yog dab tsi uas kuv tus tub / ntxhais tau ua uas nws cov phooj ywg tso cai rau lawv tus kheej coj tus yam ntxwv zoo li no?"

Tau kawg, tus neeg raug tsim txom tsis tas yuav liam. Tab sis, txawm li cas los xij, muaj cov menyuam uas pom lawv tus kheej hauv cov xwm txheej zoo sib xws thiab tiv nrog lawv, vim tias lawv paub tseeb tias lawv tsis tuaj yeem saib tsis taus. Thiab muaj cov menyuam yaus uas, ntawm qhov tsis sib xws, muaj kev ntseeg tseeb tias lawv tuaj yeem raug ntaus, hu ua npe, txaj muag. Ntawm no peb rov qab los rau niam txiv-menyuam kev sib raug zoo. Muaj kab lus zoo: "Koj ua tsis tau nrog kuv, uas yog. Kuv tsis tuaj yeem raug ntaus, hu ua npe, txaj muag ". Nws yog nws tias cov neeg laus yuav tsum tso rau hauv lawv lub taub hau ntawm lawv tus menyuam. Hauv ntau qhov xwm txheej, cov lus no tuaj yeem nres tus neeg ua phem.

- Yuav tsim kom muaj kev sib tham nrog tus kws qhia ntawv li cas, yog tias koj nkag siab tias koj tus menyuam tau ua txhaum?

- Tam sim no kuv xav ceeb toom rau niam txiv tsis txhob mus kawm ntawv nrog cov plaub hau ntev. Tsis tas yuav qw thiab ntaus koj txhais taw, ua pov thawj tias koj tsis muaj txim. Qhov no yuav tsum yog kev sib tham muaj tswv yim. Teem koj qhov kev xav ib sab kom ua rau kev sib tham ua haujlwm. Nws yog qhov tseeb uas kuv mob siab rau tus menyuam, Kuv xav rau txim rau tus ua txhaum. Tab sis, txawm li cas los xij, khaws koj tus kheej hauv tes.

Yuav tsum ua raws cov tswv yim zoo ib yam yog tias koj txiav txim siab tham nrog niam txiv ntawm tus menyuam uas ua txhaum koj tus menyuam. Nco ntsoov: txhua tus niam txiv ib txwm yuav tiv thaiv "nws cov ntshav". Yog tias koj tuaj thiab pib hais tias: "Koj tus tub tau thuam kuv tus tub tsis muaj hmoo," ces kev sib tham yuav raug rhuav tshem. Ua tus neeg laus txoj haujlwm - tsis swb rau "sandbox": "koj yog neeg dag - tsis yog, koj yog neeg dag." Qhov teeb meem tshwm sim yog ib qho teeb meem tshwm sim rau koj cov menyuam. Yog tias niam txiv pib sib tham nrog ib leeg, lawv cov menyuam tseem yuav ntsib ib nrab.

Kev ntsuas loj heev

- Yuav ua li cas hauv qhov xwm txheej thaum tus menyuam tsis xav kom niam lossis txiv cuam tshuam rau hauv nws qhov kev tsis sib haum nrog cov phooj ywg?

- Hauv qhov xwm txheej no, nws yog ib qho tseem ceeb kom tus menyuam nkag siab tias yog nws ua tsis tiav tam sim ntawd, koj yuav tuaj yeem pab cawm. Piv txwv li: “Kuv hwm koj qhov kev txiav txim siab. Paub tias kuv tsis muaj teeb meem dab tsi tshwm sim thiab tuaj yeem pab ib txwm. " Tsuas yog saib qhov xwm txheej ib pliag: yog tias nws pib ua kom tsis muaj kev tswj hwm, koj, raws li tus neeg laus, yuav tsum tso tseg txhua yam. Qhov tseem ceeb ntawm theem pib yog ua kom meej rau koj tus menyuam tias nws tseem muaj kev tiv thaiv, nws muaj "lub hauv paus" uas tso siab tau, yog tias tsim nyog.

- Cov cim dab tsi tuaj yeem qhia tias tus menyuam raug thab plaub los ntawm cov phooj ywg?

- Hloov siab ntsws. Tus menyuam tsis xav mus kawm ntawv / tsev kawm qib pib, yws, hais tias txhua yam nyob ib puag ncig phem npaum li cas. Nws tsis qhia dab neeg nthuav los ntawm lub neej hauv chav kawm. Cov cim qhia pom tseeb - los nrog nqaij doog, qhia tias nws tau poob phau ntawv sau tseg, lossis pib yooj yim "poob" yam. Feem ntau qhov no tshwm sim vim cov phooj ywg ua phem rau lawv, coj lawv mus, lossis tsuas yog muab pov tseg xwb. Feem ntau, nws raug nquahu kom paub cov phooj ywg ntawm tus menyuam. Thiab nws yuav zoo yog tias lawv tuaj xyuas koj lub tsev ib ntus.

- Cia peb hais tias tus menyuam muaj teeb meem tsis sib haum nrog cov phooj ywg, tuaj yeem hloov mus rau lwm lub tsev kawm ntawv pab hauv qhov no?

- Qhov no yog kev ntsuas huab. Nws zoo dua los nrog pab pawg tshwj xeeb, dua li hloov lawv tas li. Nws tshwm sim ntau zaus uas tus menyuam hloov pauv tom qab kawm ntawv, tab sis tsis tuaj yeem ua phooj ywg nrog nws cov phooj ywg hauv chav kawm. Hauv qhov no, nws yog qhov tsim nyog los daws tus menyuam nws tus kheej - nws ua dab tsi hauv zej zog uas nws tsis lees txais nws? Tej zaum nws tsis ntseeg tib neeg, ua rau lawv ua qee yam tsis zoo, lossis coj tus yam ntxwv ua phem rau nws tus kheej.

- Thiab koj xav li cas txog qhov tseeb tias cov menyuam yaus uas tsis tuaj yeem haum rau hauv pab pawg raug xa mus kawm tom tsev?

- Qhov no yog ib zaj dab neeg heev. Koj yuav tsum tau saib seb kev xav ua rau tus menyuam mob siab npaum li cas. Rau ib tus neeg, qhov tseeb, cov kauj ruam no tuaj yeem pab kom rov zoo, ntseeg lawv tus kheej dua thiab dhau los ua tus kheej. Tab sis ua ke, tus menyuam yuav tsum tau mus ntsib kws kho mob hlwb thiab daws qhov xwm txheej uas tau tshwm sim. Thiab, feem ntau yuav tsis yog rau nws ib leeg, tab sis rau tag nrho tsev neeg feem ntau. Thiab thaum nws rov zoo, "sawv ntawm nws ko taw", tom qab ntawd koj tuaj yeem rov qab mus rau pab pawg.

Tab sis yog tias koj daws qhov teeb meem los ntawm kev kaw koj tus menyuam tawm ntawm lub ntiaj teb, pib tiv thaiv nws thiab hais tias: "Txhua tus neeg nyob ib puag ncig tsis zoo, thiab koj yog tus tshwj xeeb nrog peb," tom qab ntawd nws yuav tsis npaj txhij tawm ntawm cov xwm txheej hauv tsev no.. Thiab qhov no yuav ua rau qhov teeb meem hnyav ntxiv.