2024 Tus sau: Harry Day | [email protected]. Kawg hloov kho: 2023-12-17 15:46
Kuv paub txhua yam, tab sis kuv tsis ua dab tsi.
Cov kab lus nquag los ntawm cov neeg siv khoom uas kuv nkag siab txhua yam, tau nyeem ntau phau ntawv, koom kev cob qhia rau kev loj hlob ntawm tus kheej, thiab kuv zoo li pib, tab sis kuv tsis tuaj yeem siv sijhawm ntev, Kuv tso tseg. …
Vim li cas qhov no tshwm sim? Nyob rau theem ntawm kev tsim nyog, peb twb tau sau ntau qhov kev paub, tab sis tseem muaj peb PSYCHOLOGICAL PROTECTIONS uas tseem nyob nrog peb thiab tiv thaiv peb lub siab los ntawm kev ntxhov siab thiab hloov pauv.
Cia peb hais tias koj ua neej nyob tsis zoo, thiab tam sim ntawd muaj qhov txuj ci tseem ceeb tshwm sim thiab koj pib khwv tau ob peb zaug ntxiv, puas yog? Puas yog koj lub siab puas tuaj yeem dhia dhau qhov ntse? Tom qab tag nrho, koj tsis muaj txuj ci lossis tsis muaj peev xwm muab pov tseg ntawm cov khoom muaj nqis no. … Ntau zaus, tom qab kev qhia ua lag luam, cov neeg uas tsis tau koom nrog kev lag luam yuav yooj yim "tsoo ntoo", ntawm lub zog nthwv dej no, uas lawv tau raug foob, lawv yuav nqis peev nyiaj hauv qhov chaw tsis raug thiab poob nyiaj txiag. …
Rau qhov kev hloov pauv tseem ceeb tshwm sim thiab nyob ntev, koj yuav tsum npaj av rau lawv. Rau qee tus, nws yuav yog kawm qee qhov txuj ci ua haujlwm, ua ntau qhov kev sim thiab ua yuam kev. Rau qee tus, nws yuav txaus nrog cov peev txheej, xav tau kev txhawb nqa, thiab twb tau cais los ntawm lawv niam lawv txiv thiab pib lawv tus kheej lub neej ywj pheej. …
Txhua qhov no tshwm sim maj mam, yog li koj tus kheej thiab koj ib puag ncig tau siv los pom thiab paub koj hauv txoj hauv kev tshiab.
Lossis tej zaum ib puag ncig yuav hloov pauv tag nrho, tsis tuaj yeem tiv koj qhov kev hloov pauv? … Xav, koj puas paub dab tsi? Koj tuaj yeem ua dab tsi? Thiab koj tuaj yeem muab nqi zog rau koj tus kheej li cas? Yog li ntawd lub hom phiaj tsis txaus ntshai, faib nws mus rau cov theem me me, theem.
Tam sim no, tuav tus cwj mem thiab sau:
- kuv xav tau dab tsi? koj cov kev xav
- Kuv xav tau dab tsi rau qhov no?
- Kuv tuaj yeem ua dab tsi tam sim no?
- thiab yam kuv ua tsis tau, tab sis kuv npau suav.
Thaum daim phiaj npaj rau ntawm daim ntawv thiab cov hom phiaj tau hais tseg, qhov no yuav yog thawj kauj ruam lawm! Thiab txhawm rau ua ib qho ntxiv, koj yuav tsum saib seb cov peev txheej muab rau koj li cas. Thiab nws tseem zoo dua los pleev xim.
Thiab nco ntsoov, rau kev hloov pauv tseem ceeb thiab thoob ntiaj teb, nws yog ib qho tseem ceeb kom paub tab thiab ua yam tsawg kawg yog ib yam dab tsi txhua hnub kom ua tiav koj lub hom phiaj! Yog tias koj pom nws nyuaj rau kev txiav txim siab koj tus kheej, tom qab ntawv thov tus neeg txhawb nqa koj. Qhov no tuaj yeem yog niam txiv, tus phooj ywg zoo tshaj plaws, tus kws kho paj hlwb, tus kws qhia, lwm qhov ib nrab, cov phooj ywg uas muaj kev nyiam ib yam. Nws tsis txaus ntshai ua ke)))
Koj puas muaj kev xav zoo li no? Koj yuav ua li cas nrog lawv?
Pom zoo:
Kuv Paub, Tab Sis Kuv Tsis Ua Dab Tsi
Tus txiv neej tuaj nrog thov: "Kuv tsis hloov dab tsi hauv kuv lub neej. Muaj cov tswv yim los txhim kho qhov twg, muaj peev xwm uas kuv tuaj yeem khwv tau nyiaj tau zoo, muaj ib puag ncig kev sib txuas lus nrog cov neeg muaj kev vam meej ntau dua uas nyiam.
Codependency: "Kuv Ua Txhua Yam Kom Nws Zoo Siab, Kuv Tsis Tuaj Yeem Tsis Lees Paub Nws Ib Yam Dab Tsi"
Ib feem ntawm kuv phau ntawv "Peb ua dab tsi cuam tshuam nrog kev hlub, lossis nws puas yog Kev Hlub". Hauv nws tus kheej, lub siab xav ua qee yam zoo siab rau tus neeg hlub yog qhov zoo. Yog tias muaj cov xwm txheej tau ntsib:
Kev Teeb Tsa Kev Teeb Tsa Raws Li Cov Lus Dab Neeg: "Thiab Kuv Nyob Ntawd, Haus Zib Ntab -npias - Nws Tau Ntws Los Ntawm Kuv Cov Hniav, Tab Sis Kuv Tsis Nkag Rau Hauv Kuv Lub Qhov Ncauj "
"Thiab kuv nyob ntawd, haus zib ntab -npias - Nws tau ntws los ntawm kuv cov hniav, tab sis kuv tsis tau nkag rau hauv kuv lub qhov ncauj …" Nov yog zaum kawg ntawm zaj lus qhia. Txij ntawm no mus, tus neeg hais dab neeg, lossis tus saib xyuas, tshwm nyob hauv zaj dab neeg.
Puas Yog Txhua Yam Ua Tau Rau Menyuam? Los Yog Dab Tsi Txog Cov Kev Cai Thiab Dab Tsi Yog Tsis Tso Cai?
Tus menyuam loj hlob thiab txhim kho. Thiab dab tsi nag hmo tsis txaus siab rau nws tseem, hnub no nws xav tau. Tab sis tsis tas li, nyob deb ntawm ib txwm, tus menyuam tuaj yeem tso cai thiab tso cai txhua yam. Txij li thaum peb nyob hauv ib lub zej zog, thiab lub zej zog no muaj raws li qee txoj cai, nws yog ib qho tseem ceeb los qhia rau menyuam yaus cov cai no.
Kuv Tsis Paub Kuv Xav Tau Dab Tsi, Tab Sis Kuv Yuav
Nws yog zam kom muaj npe nrov hnub no. Qhov no tsis tsuas yog tso tseg kom ua qee yam txaj muag, nws hloov mus rau hauv kev coj noj coj ua ntawm kev tso cai, uas zoo npog yav dhau los lub yeeb koob ntawm kev tsis muaj npe. Ua qhov kuv xav tau thiab tsis ua qhov kuv tsis xav tau yog tus qauv tshiab ntawm kev xav nkees ntev.
